One of my favourite quotes is by Maya Angelou
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty”- we allow ourselves to feel less accomplished because of the achievements of those around us, without appreciating that they were once dealing with the same struggle that we are experiencing now.
I spoke to an old friend recently and after a long catch up she ended the conversation with “Wow, your life is great!” and this startled me. I had this line repeating itself in my head for a while and it made me think deeply about my current situation. This person had assumed that everything in my life was going well because I was only presenting the positives of my current situation (I personally don’t believe in sharing my struggle until I can see the fruits of my labour). This made me think about how I view others; how easily I may see someone who appears to have their life in order and forget that not only may they have worked ridiculously hard for it, but that their position has no direct impact on mine.
“Each of you must examine your own actions. Then you can be proud of your own accomplishments without comparing yourself to others. Assume your own responsibility.”- Galatians 6:4-5.
Comparison truly is the thief of joy! We need to learn to develop a mindset where we are constantly challenged, motivated and inspired by the success and progression of those around us, not discouraged and disheartened by what we view as a lack of accomplishments.
It’s key to remember that we all grow at different rates: physically and mentally. It seems obvious, but it’s very easy to look over and see Person A starting their own business or Person B achieving top grades and wonder why you are where you are. But ask yourself this, if five years ago someone had asked you where you would be, would you have been right? I don’t know who is reading this but it’s more than likely that you have achieved so much more than you ever thought you would, accomplished more than you thought possible and forgotten to look back at where you came from and congratulate yourself.
“The waiting. The meantime. The in-between. It all serves purpose. Trust your process even the delays and detours.”
One of my favourite Bible passages that my mum insists on hammering into my head is Ecclesiastes 3: “There is a time for everything…” It is so important to live your own life, at your own pace, making your own decisions for your own benefit. Don’t live your life under the pressure of pleasing society, family or friends, do what works best for you because ultimately you’ll be the one to deal with the consequences!
We need to remind ourselves that we are awesome just the way we are- everyone around us may be progressing slightly faster, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t progressing at all.
Stay in your own lane.
Be your own person.
Follow your own purpose.
Work on being a better you.
Do what works for you and makes you happy.
It can be difficult when it feels as though others are progressing further and faster than you but everyone has their own story, perfect yours.
All the best,