We Can All Win!

we can all win behind the schmile

My self-development journey has led me to put a lot of focus on my flaws. But every so often I have to toot my own horn and acknowledge my positive traits. One of these being my strong belief that we can all win!

But experience has shown me that not everybody thinks this way. I went to a selective sixth form full of ‘smart students’ and I ‘cut off’ a lot of the friends I had made there early on because I was sick of the competitive nature. I had ‘friends’ that were hiding information from me whilst gladly soaking in all of the tips and advice I had to give because they felt that I was their competition.

Maybe I should be honoured that they saw me as a worthy opponent.

Maybe the only reason I was so happy to run this race as a collective was because my passion and drive weren’t as strong as theirs; I wasn’t as hungry for these things that we were all after.

Or maybe, just maybe, I just genuinely want everyone to win! *adjusts halo*

Sharing Is Caring

I have a strong belief that what God has set aside for me is for me and that no man can tamper with that. So when it comes to things like job openings, exam tips, networking events etc, I feel that it is important to expose our friends to such opportunities. A friend of mine always questioned why I would see an opportunity and share it. Well… why not? Apparently, this can lower my chances of success, but I don’t measure my success against the next person, I measure it against the old me.

Someone else’s win is not my loss.

“Look in the mirror, that’s your comptetition”

S/O to the people that do this! I am pleasantly surprised at the people -whom I don’t even consider close friends- that reach out to me with opportunities. Β I am also too often disappointed in ‘friends’ that will exclude me from something they knew I would benefit from.

The way I view life, if someone else has to lose for me to win, then I didn’t really win, I just replaced them.

Support Your Friends!

There are also some people, I don’t know what their wahala is, but they can’t bear to see anybody do well. Even their so-called friends.

phaedra parks jesus take the wheel fix it jesus behind the schmile we can all win bad friendsThis is the day and age where “everybody has a blog, a youtube channel, a podcast, a wig line etc” and yet even when your supposed bestie is posting links you won’t give a simple RT. Does the fact that the market may be oversaturated mean that whatever they have to say/show/sell is not of value? Does it mean that their efforts should go to waste? Do you think that they aren’t good enough to make it? Regardless of whether or not you answered yes to any of these questions, as a friend, you should still support! This is not the kind of support that ends in a RT or a Snapchat shout out, but the type that leads to constructive criticism to help make them better.

If this is what they have chosen to do, as their friend, your job is to help make them the best in their endeavours.

Healthy Competition

Asahd Khaled most likely agrees that healthy competition is key in a healthy relationship. People talk all the time about having friends that motivate them, well this works both ways. The title of this post is that we can ALL win. Your relationships will probably last a lot longer if you are all working towards something. So, if you have friends that seem stagnant in their growth/goals, encourage them to work towards something. Compete with them in a healthy and fruitful way. You don’t have to be doing the same things, but you should both have the end goal of being successful.

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I am a female. Therefore it is probably correctly assumed that I have dealt with jealous ‘friends’: the kindΒ that will hate on my success before making any attempts to work towards their own. Such friends probably could have done with some motivation rather than termination. Whether or not they accepted or acted on it is an issue for another day, but always do your part.

Ultimately, nobody wants to see everyone pass them by, sometimes people just need a push to join the race!

behind the schmile beyonce i slay formation we can all win

Believe In Your Slay!

It’s much easier to support your friends and willingly share information that may lead to another individual’s big break if you aren’t constantly worried about your own success.

My mother always reminds me that those that ‘made it’ were not born with two heads; in other words, we are all capable.

It’s easy to doubt yourself during tough times and compare your walk to those closest to you- I’m guilty. When this happens, those who are your true friends should be there to help pick you back up! However, if that belief isn’t already instilled in you, no one else’s words can force it to be true. You have to be a firm believer in your slay before anyone else can convince you of it.
beyonce formation i slay behind the schmile we can all win

King Bey said it herself, “we gon’ slay” simply meaning that we can all win, but it’s a choice!

If for whatever reason you can’t do any of the above, please remember to pray for your friends! Life is already hard enough, so why not help a sister/brother out?

Stay winning.

Tisha x

#Schmile

  63 comments for “We Can All Win!

  1. September 3, 2017 at 2:16 pm

    You had some very valid points! I think if all women thought this way everyone could get a lot further. You mentioned my favorite quote “what God has for me is for me!” Thanks for sharing:)

    • TishaKimiira
      September 3, 2017 at 2:51 pm

      Thank you so much for reading -I’m glad you agree!πŸ’™

  2. September 3, 2017 at 2:48 pm

    Love this, and it is so very true. I am happy that I do see myself as my biggest competition. Like Brandi has stated above, I agree in thinking that we would be much further if we supported one another and encouraged growth.

    • TishaKimiira
      September 3, 2017 at 2:53 pm

      So much more growth and so much faster too!Life is already difficult enough lol! Thank you for reading as always!πŸ’™

  3. September 3, 2017 at 6:59 pm

    Girl can I get an amen ! Especially on the support your friends part .

    • TishaKimiira
      September 3, 2017 at 7:03 pm

      AMEN! Glad you liked it!πŸ’™

  4. Cathaleen
    September 3, 2017 at 8:42 pm

    So true ! I think people truly believe it’s only room at the top for one person. There’s room for us all and we can only get there by being a good friend and support system

    • TishaKimiira
      September 3, 2017 at 8:54 pm

      Sooo much room! Completely agree- thank you for reading!πŸ’™

  5. September 3, 2017 at 8:52 pm

    Yaaas girl! I’m ALWAYS telling my friends to believe in their slay!!
    And there is nothing better than being a supportive friend and having friends who support you too.
    Thanks for sharing πŸ™‚

    • TishaKimiira
      September 3, 2017 at 8:55 pm

      Thank you so much for reading! Glad you agree!πŸ’™

  6. September 3, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    Love this post. It’s all about supporting yourself and others.

    Cat Storey – the highs and lows of a slow runner

    • TishaKimiira
      September 3, 2017 at 9:49 pm

      Glad you like it πŸ’™

  7. September 3, 2017 at 10:30 pm

    I love the way you think! I wish more people thought like this! There’s a slice of pie for everyone. We don’t have to kick each other down or passive aggressively watch someone struggle. I wholeheartedly agree with the saying that what God has set aside for you is yours. People don’t always have to be so guarded and competitive all the time. Great post!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 3, 2017 at 10:33 pm

      Thank you so much- this means a lot! So glad you enjoyed it!πŸ’™

  8. GhanaGirl
    September 3, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    I LOVE IT

    • TishaKimiira
      September 3, 2017 at 10:55 pm

      πŸ’™πŸ’™πŸ’™

  9. Adi
    September 3, 2017 at 11:05 pm

    Believe in thy slay. I Love thisπŸ™πŸΎ

    • TishaKimiira
      September 3, 2017 at 11:08 pm

      πŸ’™πŸ’™πŸ’™

  10. September 4, 2017 at 4:31 pm

    I’m glad God always sees us through. He will never leave us or forsake us.

    • TishaKimiira
      September 6, 2017 at 3:11 pm

      Ever faithful! Forever grateful! Thank you so much for reading- God bless πŸ™‚

  11. September 4, 2017 at 4:53 pm

    Great read! I too believe that we can all win and also that we should be our biggest supporter as well. ‘Believe in your Slay’!!!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 4, 2017 at 9:00 pm

      Thank you!!!πŸ’™

  12. September 4, 2017 at 9:01 pm

    Another great post! I completely agree – healthy competition is beneficial but collaboration is also of strong value.

    • TishaKimiira
      September 4, 2017 at 9:47 pm

      Thank you for supporting as always πŸ™‚ Collaboration is a necessity- can’t do anything alone!

  13. rspires811
    September 5, 2017 at 12:04 am

    Great post! It would be nice to have support from all your friends but I’ve learn to let it go. Be grateful for those who do support you and keep it movin.

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 6:04 am

      This is so important! There’s no time to spend feeling disappointed. Thanks for reading πŸ’™

  14. September 5, 2017 at 12:11 am

    Girl! When I tell you I needed this! We can all make it!!! If I eat my whole family eat!!!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 6:04 am

      Everybody eating!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Thank you for reading πŸ’™

  15. Addie
    September 5, 2017 at 1:18 am

    Ahhhhhhh! So glad you said it!! I’ll never understand why people think that if you help another it’ll reduce your shine. Love this!!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 6:05 am

      Pleased that you agree!!!! Appreciate you reading πŸ’™

  16. September 5, 2017 at 3:52 am

    Thank you fo this. Sometimes its nice to read what we often feel but don’t say out loud.

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 6:05 am

      Glad you could relate!πŸ’™

  17. September 5, 2017 at 7:34 pm

    Great post! Really needed to read this!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 9:10 pm

      Thank you!πŸ’™

  18. September 5, 2017 at 8:09 pm

    I definitely shared this with my network. I try to tell my clients this AllπŸ‘πŸΎTheπŸ‘πŸΎTimeπŸ‘πŸΎ

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 9:10 pm

      πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚thank you for sharing- glad you agree!

  19. September 5, 2017 at 8:39 pm

    You are who you hang out with! Create the best inner circle and you’ll thrive!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 9:10 pm

      Definitely agree with this!πŸ’™

  20. September 5, 2017 at 9:06 pm

    Yasss honey! You had some very valid points in this post! You are so right, what God has for me is definitely for me and no one can stop that! I love this πŸ™‚

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 9:11 pm

      So glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for readingπŸ’™

  21. fckjoneses
    September 5, 2017 at 9:43 pm

    Love this! I def think it’s a sign of maturity when you want everyone around you to win.

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 9:52 pm

      Never thought of it that way but thank you!☺️

  22. September 5, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    So true! There is room for everyone. We need to support each other!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 10:09 pm

      Thank you!πŸ’™

  23. Anonymous
    September 5, 2017 at 10:44 pm

    Love this post!!!!! I’m also on a journey of growth and let me tell you!!! It takes the grace of God (and your home training lol) to love those who do not wish you well – but at the end of the day, we can only be who we are and let others answer for their own actions.

    • TishaKimiira
      September 5, 2017 at 10:48 pm

      Haha home training- such a valid point! I’m learning to remember that everyone wasn’t raised the same. Thank you for reading!πŸ’™

  24. September 5, 2017 at 10:48 pm

    I know this story only too well. In the end, we just have to love others and leave them to their own devices. Nice blog.

    • TishaKimiira
      September 6, 2017 at 3:08 pm

      Agreed- our biggest investment is ourself, everyone else can wait. Thank you for reading!x

  25. September 6, 2017 at 12:49 am

    The older I get the more I realize that people either have this mind set or they don’t. The ones who don’t you’re better off without them!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 6, 2017 at 6:28 am

      Very interesting pov! Thank you for readingπŸ’™

  26. September 6, 2017 at 2:59 am

    Great post Tisha. I love the first paragraph under “Sharing is Caring” – well put and very true! It’s helpful to remind ourselves that God is Master of all and the only one who can kill our destiny in Him is ourselves.

    • TishaKimiira
      September 6, 2017 at 6:29 am

      Thank you so much- I’m glad you enjoyed it!πŸ’™

  27. September 6, 2017 at 9:40 pm

    If we can all remember that someone else’s win is not my loss and vice versa we’d all be so much more happy lol this was super inspirational!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 6, 2017 at 9:42 pm

      So glad it inspired you! Thank you for reading!πŸ’™

  28. September 7, 2017 at 4:27 am

    There is so much validity in this. Yet again another great read!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 7, 2017 at 8:05 am

      Thank you!πŸ’™

  29. joyfulsource
    September 7, 2017 at 7:19 am

    Good points! So true! This is such an inspirational article and I am definitely sharing!

    • TishaKimiira
      September 7, 2017 at 8:05 am

      Thank you so much!πŸ’™

  30. Anonymous
    September 7, 2017 at 5:09 pm

    I’m all for female empowerment!! I’m in agreement with you that we can ALL win ❀️

    • TishaKimiira
      September 7, 2017 at 9:59 pm

      YES to girl power! Thank you for reading πŸ’™

  31. September 16, 2017 at 2:03 am

    The world would be an incredible place to live, if more people shared this same opinion. Nowadays, we only find competition (the negative one, filled with envy), and less space to be ourselves and do our things. Less space to share our talents, points of view… it’s hard to live here without being judged, it’s hard to see people being selfless… they unfortunately think that they only have to lose when they share, when it’s the opposite!

    You made great points, I already visited this post three times because I am in love with your idea, with your writing!
    We really should believe in ourselves. I only wanna be better than myself, thrive to be the best I can be πŸ™‚ this is the most beautiful way to shine!

    I support you!!!!! <3 Let's all win together!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    We can do this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    <3

    • TishaKimiira
      September 16, 2017 at 8:13 am

      “They only have to lose when they share” LOVE THIS! Such a valid and unfortunate point raised here- too many people think this way! Repeat reading!!! Hahaha that means so much to meπŸ’™πŸ’™πŸ’™We definitely can! Thank you so much! All the best beautiful 😘

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