Not Everything is Political: #UnpopularPoliticalOpinion

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I have two extremes:  I’m either talking too much and can’t be stopped despite who is listening (which is usually no-one thanks to my supposedly monotone voice) or I’m completely silent and I’m 100% focused on listening. Usually, these periods of silence are what lead to these rants. By writing things down rather than subjecting my voice to blending in with the background, at least I know I’ll be heard.

Side note: to you know who, this isn’t shade, I love that you put up with my monotone voice, or at least pretend to πŸ˜›

So today I want to discuss something that I feel many understand but are scared to express. My unpopular opinions are somewhat political.

Unpopular Political Opinion #1: Chill with the Feminism

I study Mechanical Engineering and have completed industrial placements as a part of my degree. It should come as no surprise that engineering is extremely male-dominant, the mechanical stream even more so. Sometimes my position makes me feel uncomfortable because as I always say, Representation Matters. At times, not only was I the only female in the room, I was the only black person in the room- double whammy!

But one thing I noticed that really annoyed me was how many of the other women (when I say many I mean 5 maximum) would come into work/uni on the defence. You couldn’t crack a joke with them without them finding some deep-rooted misogynistic meaning behind your words. It was the feminist version of pulling the race card. They felt like they had to be 10x better than everyone, especially the other women leading to unnecessary competition. Also, they were often afraid to ask for help or do anything that would remind people that they were women.

I don’t mind people holding the door for me and I don’t mind being offered a seat in a packed meeting room. I’m not particularly fussed if people are told to mind their language around a lady neither do I mind having to ask for help. I acknowledge that it is 2017 and I shouldn’t be treated differently to my male counterparts. But is it worth starting a riot and declaring my rights and beliefs as a feminist just because someone wanted to hold open the door? After all, I hold the door open for men too. This doesn’t make then any less men just like me accepting the gesture makes me any more a woman!

So don’t get it twisted, I understand the struggle and the fight, but sometimes y’all gotta chill.

Unpopular Political Opinion #2: I am NOT my Hair!

Probably not even an unpopular opinion, but definitely not discussed enough. The natural hair movement/community is doing waaaay too much.

I attempted to start a natural hair journey about 5 years ago because I wanted to jump on the bandwagon like everyone on YouTube. Also because my relaxed hair was just not cutting it. I went to see Beyoncé on her Mrs Carter World Tour and my edges were gone before she even had the chance to snatch them! *Cue sad violin music*. But eventually life happened and after 8 months of battling with thick regrowth, I gave into the creamy crack. Now, 5 years later, I can say that I have transitioned for a year, big chopped and have been fully natural for 4 months.

I didn’t choose to go natural to make a political statement. I was not on a quest to assert my blackness or prove that I didn’t hate my kinks. Sometimes I do- it’s not the most ‘efficient’ hair type to manage! But there were times that I hated my relaxed hair too! I did it because thanks to lace fronts I no longer need to perm my regrowth. An underwhelming reason I know, but the truth. I won’t even bother getting into how wearing wigs/weaves means that I hate my African roots. I can only tackle so much ignorance in one go.

So please stop assuming that every natural girl has taken her ‘wokeness’ to the next level. I get it, it’s not just hair, but sometimes it is…

Surprisingly enough this rant is short… But don't let it end there! Please share your #UnpopularPoliticalOpinion with me using the hashtag on Twitter or in the comments below!

Tisha x

Schmile

  9 comments for “Not Everything is Political: #UnpopularPoliticalOpinion

  1. July 27, 2017 at 5:26 pm

    I think there are extremes in everything. With the natural hair movement some become almost militant with it and hotep it to the 9th power. For me I became natural because relaxers really didn’t relax my hair that well my hair is very thick, course, and I have low porosity so it is hard to penetrate my hair shaft. The only relaxer that worked the best cost $50 and I still needed to flat iron. So going natural was cost effective and my hair is healthier. Going natural is not for everyone.

    The feminism thing does irk me. I saw the other day and shared that they are doing period nail art. WHY? Then you have artists painting with their period blood.which is just as gross as those who paint with their blood period. I also do not like how they jump on the bandwagon for everything so easy but often act like they have laryngitis or developed claw hands preventing them from typing when women’s rights issue for minorities comes up.

    I think my comment is getting as long as your post here. All in all, not everyone in a “movement” is the same. The annoying ones are the loudest though.

    • TishaKimiira
      July 27, 2017 at 5:49 pm

      I’m glad I’m not the only one that feels so strongly!!! The ‘extremists’ distract from the real issues. If I go on we would have both written another post in the comments πŸ˜‚thank you so much for reading!πŸ’™

  2. July 28, 2017 at 6:38 am

    I love my natural hair. I can not stand being judged base on my hair. I had someone want to touch mt hair and feel the texture. and ask if I am mixed. Um no I am black lady.

    • TishaKimiira
      July 28, 2017 at 8:57 am

      I’m learning to love my natural hair too! I definitely feel that it should be embraced, not forced upon people as many in the natural community try to do. Thanks for reading!πŸ’™

  3. July 29, 2017 at 3:40 am

    Mhmmm, one of my favorite blog posts this month was discussing the militant brand of social justice that seems to seep into many discussions. Almost as if you can’t squeeze in an opinion…..I agree with your points. I especially agree with the hair. I am literally only natural because I got lazy and didn’t want to keep going to the salon. My hair is short and natural now because…..I’M LAZY lol. No other reason.

    • TishaKimiira
      July 29, 2017 at 8:34 am

      Militant brand of social justice- this is exactly what it is!!!!! Natural hair imposes involuntary arm workouts, I’d rather not loool. Thanks for reading πŸ’™

      • July 29, 2017 at 6:04 pm

        LOL πŸ˜‚ Literally dealt with this yesterday. My mom was falling asleep twisting her hair so I had to tag team in and help her finish

  4. TishaKimiira
    July 29, 2017 at 7:28 pm

    Natural hair is definitely a joint effort πŸ˜‚

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