I have two extremes: I’m either talking too much and can’t be stopped despite who is listening (which is usually no-one thanks to my supposedly monotone voice) or I’m completely silent and I’m 100% focused on listening. Usually, these periods of silence are what lead to these rants. By writing things down rather than subjecting my voice to blending in with the background, at least I know I’ll be heard.
Side note: to you know who, this isn’t shade, I love that you put up with my monotone voice, or at least pretend to 😛
So today I want to discuss something that I feel many understand but are scared to express. My unpopular opinions are somewhat political.
Unpopular Political Opinion #1: Chill with the Feminism
I study Mechanical Engineering and have completed industrial placements as a part of my degree. It should come as no surprise that engineering is extremely male-dominant, the mechanical stream even more so. Sometimes my position makes me feel uncomfortable because as I always say, Representation Matters. At times, not only was I the only female in the room, I was the only black person in the room- double whammy!
But one thing I noticed that really annoyed me was how many of the other women (when I say many I mean 5 maximum) would come into work/uni on the defence. You couldn’t crack a joke with them without them finding some deep-rooted misogynistic meaning behind your words. It was the feminist version of pulling the race card. They felt like they had to be 10x better than everyone, especially the other women leading to unnecessary competition. Also, they were often afraid to ask for help or do anything that would remind people that they were women.
I don’t mind people holding the door for me and I don’t mind being offered a seat in a packed meeting room. I’m not particularly fussed if people are told to mind their language around a lady neither do I mind having to ask for help. I acknowledge that it is 2017 and I shouldn’t be treated differently to my male counterparts. But is it worth starting a riot and declaring my rights and beliefs as a feminist just because someone wanted to hold open the door? After all, I hold the door open for men too. This doesn’t make then any less men just like me accepting the gesture makes me any more a woman!
So don’t get it twisted, I understand the struggle and the fight, but sometimes y’all gotta chill.
Unpopular Political Opinion #2: I am NOT my Hair!
Probably not even an unpopular opinion, but definitely not discussed enough. The natural hair movement/community is doing waaaay too much.
I attempted to start a natural hair journey about 5 years ago because I wanted to jump on the bandwagon like everyone on YouTube. Also because my relaxed hair was just not cutting it. I went to see Beyoncé on her Mrs Carter World Tour and my edges were gone before she even had the chance to snatch them! *Cue sad violin music*. But eventually life happened and after 8 months of battling with thick regrowth, I gave into the creamy crack. Now, 5 years later, I can say that I have transitioned for a year, big chopped and have been fully natural for 4 months.
I didn’t choose to go natural to make a political statement. I was not on a quest to assert my blackness or prove that I didn’t hate my kinks. Sometimes I do- it’s not the most ‘efficient’ hair type to manage! But there were times that I hated my relaxed hair too! I did it because thanks to lace fronts I no longer need to perm my regrowth. An underwhelming reason I know, but the truth. I won’t even bother getting into how wearing wigs/weaves means that I hate my African roots. I can only tackle so much ignorance in one go.
So please stop assuming that every natural girl has taken her ‘wokeness’ to the next level. I get it, it’s not just hair, but sometimes it is…
Surprisingly enough this rant is short… But don’t let it end there! Please share your #UnpopularPoliticalOpinion with me using the hashtag on Twitter or in the comments below!