I’ve come to believe that the only New Year’s resolution you need is to adapt the way you think and everything else should fall into place- I’ll let you know how well this all works out at the start of 2016…
I’ve grown up, like many of my age, with the mind-set that all things are possible as long as you put in the hard work, and I still believe that this is true; but I took the time today to reflect on this idea and realised that I had probably taken this to the extreme. I’m known by many as being a perfectionist, a fuss pot and a bearer of stress and things only got a hell of a lot worse for me this year. A lot of things didn’t go the way I wanted them to in 2013 and I simply decided that this was because I didn’t put in enough hard work in order to achieve my goals. Because of this I turned into a robot for pretty much all of 2014 trying to do enough to tick off the things on my checklist and now that I’m here at the end of 2014 I can confess to you that it didn’t work: I wasted 364 days.
However, I feel that I’ve learnt one of the most important life lessons for anyone with faith. Proverbs 19: 21 says “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails”; it didn’t matter how many hours and how much energy I dedicated to achieving my goals, ultimately, the end result would be what God had intended for me, whether or not it was what I had worked for. Don’t get me wrong, I still strongly believe that hard work pays off- I am in no way encouraging laziness; and I’m definitely not a preacher, but based on my experiences it seems to me that only hard work aligned with God’s plan for your life will reap true success.
This is what has led me to my very unusual new year’s resolution. I invested a lot into what I thought would help me to fulfil my purpose in life, and ultimately failed, and along the way I shut out a lot of people, dealt with a lot of anxiety and started to adopt characteristics that I hate.
I realised that my short term goals and daily routine needed to change, I needed to find the balance between working hard and working smart, as well as not working at all.
I realised that I needed to make a lot more time for myself, friends and family in order to remain sane and ultimately more time for my relationship with God.
I realised that I needed to start living each day for the day, rather than for the 10 year plan I had created in my head.
But I also realised that all of this would take a long time and none of these things would happen if I continued with the same mind-set that I dragged along with me into 2014.
You might not be religious and 2014 may have been an absolutely wonderful year for you, but we all have things which we want to improve about ourselves and as cliché as it may sound, the New Year is the perfect time to do these things. It’s a journey, and it won’t be easy, nothing ever is, but my only goal as of now is to enjoy the journey, especially as I make my wrong turns along the way.
Wishing you the best in 2015, Tisha x