Life is full of lessons, I shared a few of mine in a post not long ago; some are more obvious than others and some experiences presented themselves as learning opportunities in more direct ways than others. One thing I noticed when writing that post was that it always took me a while to recognise what the lesson was, I always had to wait and look back a few months or years down the line to grasp the message. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, ultimately as long as the lesson is learnt then everything should be fine, right? Wrong- for me anyway! I like to be efficient in everything I do, learning the ins and outs of life doesn’t need to be any different.
To do this I first had to think about what made my lesson learning inefficient. One of the issues I discovered was that I only seemed to learn lessons from bad situations. There was a time that I blogged so much because I was dealing with so many negative situations that I felt I had a lot to share; and recently, as things have been going well, I have felt like I have nothing to offer. We shouldn’t be restricted to discovering ourselves and what life has in store when we are in hostile environments. This is a good way to learn about what you don’t like and what you want to improve on, but what about learning about what you’re good at and what you enjoy?
For people like me that struggle when it comes to thinking about their future and where they want to be (which is totally okay, read my thoughts/advice on that here), sometimes it is easy for us to shrug our shoulders and say we don’t know what we want because when we are in our ‘zone’ or our ‘happy place’ we overlook the crucial things that life is teaching us-we tend to just want to enjoy the moment. Maybe this is because we don’t want to add pressure or stress to this part of our life, but you don’t have to struggle to learn!
This ties into the second issue: I viewed lessons as solutions to problems rather than simply gaining knowledge, and so when I was in my ‘happy place’ that was free of troubles I was unable to identify the lessons that life was teaching me. I wasn’t gaining knowledge of myself, I was only accustomed to solving my problems and overcoming obstacles and not simply finding out who I was despite them. The most recent lesson I have learnt is not to limit your definition of yourself to your problems or your ability to solve them, but to define yourself by everything that makes you you. You are more than your accomplishments, you have natural talents and skills that are just as important. You may have to make the conscious decision to look for lessons in your life when you are in your ‘happy place’, it may not come naturally to you and this is okay, just be sure not to neglect them.
Possibly the most important way to be more efficient in your lesson learning, is to learn from others. We all know how important it is to learn from the mistakes of others but it doesn’t stop there: learning from their accomplishments is vital too. I’m not suggesting that life is just one course, full of the same lessons for everyone with a set of identical tests that everyone sits- we will all go through different things that affect us in different ways because we all have different purposes. However, there will always be things you can pick up on from others that can help you with your journey. Read books, watch documentaries, talk to friends and family, there are so many different platforms that people use to share their pathway to success, make use of it!
Think of how much more you could achieve if you learnt, understood and applied your lessons while still being taught, rather than having to wait a couple of years to recognise what the benefits of that situation were. I hope this post has inspired you to learn something valuable from everything life throws at you, good or bad!