Ever take a break from an overwhelming situation and return with the most positive attitude? Telling yourself it can’t get any worse and you can deal with it now? Assessing your actions and reactions to previous altercations and making a conscious decision to be a bit more mature?
This was me about so many different things going on in my life: relationships, health, my course, societies, the list was endless. 2015 was a great year for me because I learnt and achieved so much, but for some reason it didn’t occur to me that some lessons would continue on into 2016. So here I was thinking that 2016 would be a fresh start, with new problems and new lessons, and it is indeed, but you can’t just leave issues in 2015, they will surely follow you into 2016 if they haven’t been dealt with yet.
You’re probably wondering why I’m discussing this now, it’s already the end of February. But if like me you spent the whole of January revising for exams (I hope they went well for you all!!!) then things in your life have only really just started changing for the new year.
***Also because I started writing this at the beginning of the month and never got around to finishing- sorry!
We have to learn to push through every setback- intentionally. Set backs are bound to come. If you follow me on social media you know that I am a lover of inspirational quotes, a few weeks ago I tweeted “If you don’t encounter setbacks in your career, if you don’t have doubts and disappointments, let me tell you, you’re not dreaming big enough” a quote by Michael Bloomberg; and I have never agreed with something so strongly! I have never achieved something easily, or felt as if I didn’t face opposition, and sometimes we face these obstacles ten years prior to our achievement. I recently secured two offers for an industrial placement, and at the time I was shocked at how stress free the process felt; but then a friend reminded me of how many applications I had made the summer before, and how hard I had worked to build up my professional experience to enable me to have something to offer to these major companies.
It can be frustrating, infuriating even, working towards something and not seeing results. We live in a generation where everything needs to be instant- we want instant meals that we can pop in the microwave, instant miracles, free next day delivery, 5-second abs and 2-minute zit zappers! But life doesn’t work this way, and until you learn to recognise the beauty of learning during the storm, you may find that you never actually find yourself getting out of it. You get stuck in a viscous cycle of setbacks and disappointment, taking 5 steps back and no steps forward.
Yes, it’s all easier said than done. Everything is easier on hindsight. When I started typing this, it was a rant about my current group project and the way things seem to have been going for the past 5 months. Now I can sit here and tell you all to smile through the pain of fast approaching deadlines and irritating people because I was forced to remind myself that nothing is worth stressing over.
It’s difficult, especially as a student with no direction, or as someone with no clear goals, to work so hard and struggle so much for something that ultimately won’t even lead to something they enjoy. I don’t have any advice for you yet, I’m still trying to figure it out myself. But wouldn’t it just be great to be able to say that you finished? You’ve already come this far and overcome so many obstacles!
Just think, imagine if you DID know here you wanted to be and what your purpose was and things STILL weren’t working out, wouldn’t that be even more discouraging?
Your degree was not designed to be easy, so why do difficulties stress and surprise you? Surely you were prepared for this? Undoubtedly these things crossed your mind when you applied didn’t they? Although I always seem to refer to university, this goes for everything, nothing in life is meant to be easy, but that doesn’t mean we should give up.
When a child learns to walk and falls down 50 times he never thinks to himself “maybe this isn’t for me”- Unknown
Your hard work won’t always pay off immediately, but be rest assured it will pay off at some point. You have to learn to accept that things don’t always work out the way we feel they should, it’s all a part of this thing called life. The quicker you understand this, the easier it will be to keep going when obstacles rise.