The Face Behind the Schmile..:)

tisha face behind the schmile

I could sit here and tell you about the many reasons for which I attempted to keep my blog anonymous, but the aim here is personal development and sharing my fears won’t teach you anything. Instead, I’ll reveal to you what deciding to reveal the face Behind the Schmile..:) has taught me and what I have overcome.

Confidence

tisha behind the schmile

It’s very easy to share your views and thoughts when people only view you as a logo/name. Without a face, people can’t connect with you fully and this made it much easier for me to rant about relationships, cultural issues or my lack of political knowledge because I knew I wouldn’t run the risk of being crucified for my thoughts. Any judgement would be targeted at a weird smiley face squashed into the letter ‘S’.

But after a year, with growing support and constant reminders that I am not alone in my struggle to find myself, I don’t have a choice but to be anything other than confident.

I don’t need to be ashamed of my views.

Attaching my perspective to my face forces me to accept that these are my true thoughts and feelings; it forces me to be accountable and it forces me to have the courage to be me, unapologetically.

For the Few

Not only did I not want my views to be judged, I didn’t want my success (however I chose to define it) to be a result of how I look.

I try not to speak in riddles or beat around the bush so forgive my frankness here… Unfortunately, as a black woman, in the world of social media and blogging/vlogging, there’s no denying that your appearance has a massive impact on your success. There is a very obvious stereotype for those that make it to the top, regardless of how good their content is.

tisha behind the schmile

This is the same way your popularity (outside social media) has a large impact on your growth. I still don’t know where the large majority would rank me on this spectrum that combines popularity and looks. What I do know, is that I didn’t want this to impact the growth of Behind the Schmile..:) If people liked me, I wanted it to be because of what I wrote and how I made them feel, not how much they liked/disliked my appearance, or even worse, because I was a ‘popular’ girl.

I didn’t want fake support.

*Pause*

tisha behind the schmile

Before we get it twisted, I am not throwing shade here. I personally don’t support anyone based on looks or social status. I’m just aware that in life, not everyone gets what they deserve.

*Back to the topic*

tisha behind the schmile

But 365 days on, the support I have received for Behind the Schmile..:) has proved to me that there are a few (just a few) that simply couldn’t care less about how I look or how popular I am. They genuinely connect with me and I feel that they deserve to know me just that little bit better. I’m no longer afraid of my appearance or social status limiting or accelerating my growth because I am confident in the fact that my thoughts – the person that truly lives Behind the Schmile..:) – is enough!

Vulnerability

tisha behind the schmile

When I started blogging about my personal thoughts and issues, it was on a site where the highest viewed posts were about beauty, skincare or fashion. Again, no shade, I wrote some of these myself. But when it came to the ‘deep’ stuff, nobody cared and nobody knew because I didn’t promote it. I treated it like an online journal and didn’t mind if people happened to stumble across my thoughts. It was easier that way. Mentally, emotionally, psychologically: there was no challenge.

tisha behind the schmile

Now I’m vulnerable on a weekly basis. When I’m lonely, sad, depressed, excited, harassed, successful, scared, broke, (the list is endless), if you pay close enough attention to my words, you’ll be able to identify this. That’s a scary thought!!! Like… really scary!!! Scary to the point that sometimes I don’t even want to discuss my blog with my friends because I’m not sure how much they’ve been able to decipher and what they really think. Any blogger will know how much easier it is to be open with a bunch of strangers behind a screen than people you work, study or hang out with.

tisha behind the schmile

Putting my face on the internet isn’t a scary thing- we all do it. But putting my thoughts, the ins and outs of my being, on a platform and sharing this with complete strangers and friends is not an easy thing! But your feedback pushes me to be bold, courageous and open enough to do so. Sharing my face is simply the next step in this journey to being vulnerable.

#Schmile

There you have it! This is me! I’m not a very good model, I talk a lot and I don’t have red bottoms yet but I promise I’m working on it!

tisha behind the schmile

So here lies the end of my blabbing. I hope I haven’t scared anyone away! If you like what you’ve read so far, subscribe and follow my socials– hopefully, we can now connect on a deeper level!

A massive thank you to Babatunde Osunmakinde for these awesome shots! Check out his work here!

All the best,

Tisha x

#Schmile

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  91 comments for “The Face Behind the Schmile..:)

  1. December 3, 2017 at 12:22 am

    Nice to meet you beautiful lady 🙂 Kudos to the photographer . You have not scared me away i do not scare easily .

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 1:18 pm

      Haha glad to hear it! Thank you💙

  2. Anonymous
    December 3, 2017 at 6:38 am

    It takes real courage to bring out your personality for a bunch of virtual folks to see, and later showing them your real face. I truly appreciate the reasons for which you blog. Loved this post, and I’m really happy to meet you!
    Much love XX
    PS I think you’re very pretty 🙂

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 1:18 pm

      Thank you very much! Hope you stick around 💙

  3. December 3, 2017 at 7:16 am

    Fucking real. Tisha with the earlier posts you had my attention now you have my heart. This is incredible because I believe this is real doe, if this is not real then fuck you but if this post is real then God bless you for being you. You’re an inspiration in every sense. Keep doing you and keep smiling and by the way that smile on your face is incredible and your face is lovely and your shape is just… amazing… I could keep praising you but let me stop there. In conclusion, from one blabber to another, Well done!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 1:19 pm

      Thank you!😊

  4. December 3, 2017 at 1:40 pm

    The truth in this post!! Love it!

    Congrations on the anniversary hun! 🙌🏾💛

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 2:40 pm

      Thank you so much! Glad you liked it!💙

  5. David Abiona
    December 3, 2017 at 2:29 pm

    Well done Tisha!!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 2:40 pm

      Thank you!💙

  6. Boring Black Girl
    December 3, 2017 at 3:35 pm

    Congratulations on making 365 days of blogging! That is a wonderful accomplishment! I would like to say that, this post is EVERYTHING! I stumbled across it in a Facebook blogger group that I just became a member of. I can absolutely relate to every word you have written and share some of your very fears and emotions myself, about sharing my thoughts and feelings and my face on my personal blog. Although this is the first post I have read from you, it very well won’t be my last. Subscribing and following social now 😉❤️. Keep sharing who you are with the us, I know you have been able to inspire many women so far and will continue to touch the lives of others as you grow and share who you are with the world. You have my ear and my support! Thank you for this post, I now know I am not alone.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 3:44 pm

      Your feedback means more than you could ever imagine! I’m so glad that you can relate and thrilled that you intend to stick around!!! I really appreciate your support and will definitely check out your blog too!💙💙💙

  7. December 3, 2017 at 3:43 pm

    You’re fly! I NEED that sweater. Really appreciate the candor of this post. I understand wanting the audience to focus on the content. That has always been my primary concern. Your content and candor is clear. I don’t think you have much to worry about. I’d keep it in the current direction.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 3:45 pm

      😂😂😂thank you! It’s from TopShop luvie!
      Thank you so much for your support!💙

  8. December 3, 2017 at 4:39 pm

    Tisha you are so beautiful! This is a lovely photo shoot as well. Yes, as a blogger it takes strength and courage to be vulnerable about your experiences and struggles, especially on social media where so many people are trying to act as if they “have it all together” when the truth is we ALL are going through things. Thanks for sharing with us!

    Kendro

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 4:40 pm

      So happy you understand where I’m coming from!!!! Thank you for reading and for your continued support!💙

  9. December 3, 2017 at 5:00 pm

    I loved this! Your photos are beautiful as well. I started off hiding myself from my blog because I didn’t want people I knew to find it and know these are my thoughts. I liked the support I was getting from unknown people and thought it wouldn’t be the same from people I know, because they don’t care about that stuff/don’t understand. Over the year however I started adding more of me and dropped my guard down a bit as to whoever finds my post online. We’ll just see what happens next.
    As always, thanks for sharing; I do enjoy your posts xoxo

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 6:06 pm

      Thank you so much luvie! I completely understand! I felt/still feel the same way! Glad you enjoy my posts- thanks for your support! 🙂 x

  10. December 3, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    I too have been at that place or point in my life.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 6:48 pm

      🙂

  11. Anonymous
    December 3, 2017 at 7:48 pm

    Brilliant post-I completely agree with all that’s been said
    The same thoughts inspired me to write ‘The Year of the Underdog’ on my blog
    Cheers to more success as an authentic, unapologetic, true YOU! x

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 7:49 pm

      Thank you! Please leave a link so I can check out your post x

  12. December 3, 2017 at 8:06 pm

    You’re beautiful! I don’t know why you’d want to hide yourself. Your audience will connect with you more if they know the face behind the blog. It’s better to have a perspective, a stance on something and stand by it than to have no point of view at all. Great job! You make you’re blog great!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 8:10 pm

      That’s exactly what I’m hoping for! Thank you for the support and the compliment!!! 🙂 x

  13. December 3, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    GORGEOUS QUEEN!
    OMG, I loved this post <3 I really enjoyed to know you more! God bless you always dear Tisha! Everything about you and this blog is A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!

    <3

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 8:09 pm

      Thank you Deise!!! LOVE YOU!!!!! God bless you too luvie! 🙂 x

  14. December 3, 2017 at 9:24 pm

    You’re beautiful! Well done for hitting one year, I personally love what you do here ❤️

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 9:32 pm

      Thank you so much luvie!💙

  15. December 3, 2017 at 9:31 pm

    You look extra-ordinarily gorgeous and the pictures and background is outside this world. Congrats also on your one- year anniversary..

    • TishaKimiira
      December 3, 2017 at 9:33 pm

      Thank you so much!😊

  16. December 4, 2017 at 3:19 am

    Looking cute as hell sis!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 8:44 am

      Thank you!😘

  17. December 4, 2017 at 12:35 pm

    Congratulations on a completing a year, good luck for the future 🙂

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 12:37 pm

      Thank you so much!😊

  18. December 4, 2017 at 1:51 pm

    YESSS! It’s so good to know yourself so well and be completely comfortable in who you are! YOU GO GIRL!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 2:03 pm

      Thank you so much! Means a lot!💙

  19. December 4, 2017 at 2:13 pm

    What a vulnerable post, and kudos for being your realest version of you for EVERYONE. And I don’t have a pair of Louboutin’s either, but I wouldn’t mind them in my closet either. 🙂

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 4:21 pm

      Haha we can work on it together! 😂Thank you so much!💙

  20. December 4, 2017 at 3:05 pm

    Nice to meet you! I feel you. When l first started my travel blog, l was anonymous for a bit for some of the same reasons. It feels good when you come out from behind the shell. Kudos to you!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 4:21 pm

      Thank you so much!!!💙

  21. December 4, 2017 at 4:20 pm

    I’m sure I’ve told you a million times how much I loveeeee your blog but you’re such a beautiful human being both inside and on the outside. I truly enjoyed this post, your vulnerability speaks volume. Keep up the great work.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 4:23 pm

      This means so much! Thank you thank you thank you!!!💙

  22. December 4, 2017 at 5:13 pm

    I am glad that you were brave enough to post this, being vulnerable does not show weakness in my book, it shows strength, keep going sister!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      Thank you so much Julie! I appreciate the support! 🙂 x

  23. December 4, 2017 at 7:07 pm

    365 days of Blogging congrats it’s no small accomplishment! This is an awesome post very inspirational. I love the part about not being afraid to post your images but more afraid of posting your thoughts and feelings that is so true.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 7:15 pm

      Thank you! So glad you could relate! Definitely wasn’t easy x

  24. December 4, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    I can relate to your fears. I have a couple of social pages that are under a vague name, because I live in a medium to small rural town, and I have seen people shamed on social media and in person.for there thoughts and beliefs. I am glad that you now have the confidence and support you need to step into the limelight.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 5, 2017 at 9:58 am

      This has definitely been a fear of mine! Thank you so much for reading and supporting! 🙂

  25. staciesayzso
    December 4, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    It’s nice to see the face behind the words. It makes a blog more personal and more people can relate. Glad you decided to share more of yourself.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 9:56 pm

      Thank you!💙

  26. December 4, 2017 at 10:52 pm

    Congrats on 1 year and I look forward to seeing future posts!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 4, 2017 at 11:06 pm

      Thank you!☺️

  27. December 5, 2017 at 1:42 am

    Absolutely love your realness!

  28. The commentator
    December 5, 2017 at 1:50 am

    Great reading .. i love the writing, i love the pictures, i love the background.. you are just getting better each day.. cant wait to read more of your weekly stuff. Well done !!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 5, 2017 at 9:10 am

      Thank you so much! I appreciate the feedback!💙

  29. December 5, 2017 at 2:19 am

    Love this post!! Your thoroughness is what kept me entertained… I enjoyed reading how to revealed so much, but so little at the same time! Happy Anniversary 😘

    • TishaKimiira
      December 5, 2017 at 9:13 am

      This is awesome! So glad you loved it! Thank you for reading!😘

  30. Shell
    December 5, 2017 at 2:40 am

    It takes great courage and strength to put yourself out there for the world to see… You are doing absolutely fantastic with your blog and I look forward to reading more!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 5, 2017 at 9:13 am

      Thank you so much!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • TishaKimiira
      December 5, 2017 at 9:14 am

      Thank you so much!💙💙💙

  31. December 5, 2017 at 4:56 am

    As a blogger myself, I thought it would be best to shy away from hard topic but sometimes you have to put your truth out there. I commend you for being so courageous!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 5, 2017 at 9:14 am

      Completely agree and so glad you can relate! It’s definitely not easy. Thank you so much for reading 💙

  32. December 5, 2017 at 8:35 pm

    Happy Blogiversary!!! I definitely agree with you that it is so much easier to be open with strangers on the internet. I also find it easier to express myself through writing than talking. It’s always beautiful when we show our vulnerability to the world because we get to see that there are a lot more people dealing with similar issues than we originally thought.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 5, 2017 at 8:48 pm

      THANK YOU! & Yes, one thing blogging has taught me is that I am definitely not alone! Thank you for reading x

  33. December 5, 2017 at 9:22 pm

    Very beautiful photography. They were taken really well. Happy blogiversary. Mine is coming at the end of the month.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 5, 2017 at 10:13 pm

      Thank you so much! Happy Blogiversary in advance! 🙂 x

  34. December 5, 2017 at 9:54 pm

    Well, its a beautiful face! 🙂

  35. Carissa (The Green Eyed Lady)
    December 5, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    Glad to meet you and thanks for sharing yourself with others! I totally agree, people connect better when they can put a face with what you are saying! I used to worry about this when I started but then I said oh well, this is my outlet!!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 5, 2017 at 11:35 pm

      I agree! Can’t be scared to express myself if this is how I do it best! Thanks for reading! 🙂 x

  36. December 6, 2017 at 7:23 am

    Good for you that you’re in a comfortable enough place to reveal who you are. It’s sad we have to hide sometimes, but judgement is everywhere. It’s nice to get established based on works not looks. You’ve done well.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 6, 2017 at 9:42 am

      Thank you very much!💙

  37. December 6, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    Your absolutely beautiful. I also really loved the pumps you were wearing. It’s hard for me to find a flesh tone color shoe for my complexion, but these look like they would be perfect.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 6, 2017 at 2:27 pm

      Thank you so much! I bought them for this very reason, hard to find these days. These were from Office, I bought them summer of last year, hope that helps 💙

  38. December 6, 2017 at 2:24 pm

    Thanks for revealing yourself. Your reasoning behind not revealing yourself initally for your blog reminds me of upcoming R&B singer H.E.R. love her branding campaign for her image. She performs in dim light and all of her promo photos either have her hand in her face or more dim light because she said the industry is brutal on looks but she wanted her voice to sell. She is doing amazingly well because people connect with her song and do not even know what she look like.

    Well thanks for your reveal the world needs to see you.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 6, 2017 at 2:29 pm

      I LOVE H.E.R! I completely relate with her brand campaign and I’m so glad I was able to fall in love with her music before I knew who she actually was. I hope I’ve been able to do that here! Thank you for your support 💙

  39. Kita
    December 6, 2017 at 3:18 pm

    I tried to stay anonymous or behind the scenes on my blog so I definitely understand where your thought process was. Glad you stood in your truth then and now. Happy to e-meet you.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 6, 2017 at 3:27 pm

      Thank you so much, glad you can relate! Sometimes it feels like it’s all in my head💙

  40. December 6, 2017 at 4:05 pm

    Wonderful to see your face, AND read your words. You are a very talented writer, and I wish you the best in your next 365 days of blogging!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 6, 2017 at 4:52 pm

      Thank you so much! 🙂 x

  41. Kimiifanpage
    December 6, 2017 at 5:22 pm

    You are gorgeous!

    • TishaKimiira
      December 6, 2017 at 5:28 pm

      LOVE YOU 💕

  42. December 6, 2017 at 6:08 pm

    I love that you dare share and are confident now to show your face, to be vulnerable, to be you and to stand in your power. When we start sharing who we are we get confident.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 6, 2017 at 6:16 pm

      I agree, thank you so much for reading!💙

  43. December 7, 2017 at 1:02 am

    I agree with this 100% “Any blogger will know how much easier it is to be open with a bunch of strangers behind a screen than people you work, study or hang out with.” On my blog I was able to talk about my miscarriages and secondary infertility freely versus with my family and friends.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 7, 2017 at 8:16 am

      So sorry you had to go through that, but glad you can relate. All the best 💙 thanks for reading x

  44. Anonymous
    December 7, 2017 at 11:34 am

    I’ve read a few of your blogs. You go beyond words. You come out so clearly and so real. How you make it funny at the same time pass the deep thoughts. It’s amazing. Subscribing to your channel and I want to watch you get big. Red buttons on your feet everyday. Your accomplishments will know no bound.

    • TishaKimiira
      December 7, 2017 at 12:15 pm

      I really appreciate your support! Thank you so much- such kind words!💙

  45. Julie Syl
    December 9, 2017 at 5:20 am

    You have a simple face but so attractive and your outfits are so nice. I am touched with your words. I can relate

    • TishaKimiira
      December 9, 2017 at 9:14 am

      Thank you 💙💙💙

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