Category: TishaTalks

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Self-Care is Harming You

Yes, I said it and I’ll say it again. Self-care is harming you. What is Self-Care? First of all, we need to define this thing that I am claiming does damage to you. According to the self-care forum, “self care is about identifying your own needs and taking steps to meet them” This probably doesn’t sound like a bad thing… Read more →

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Confrontation: Make a Strategic Choice

One of the very first lessons I learnt when I began my self-development journey was that confrontation is necessary. With my blunt nature, putting my new found knowledge into practice wasn’t too difficult; the major challenge was dealing with the responses and understanding what necessary really meant. What is Confrontation? According to my trusty source,  confrontation can be defined as:… Read more →

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1 Year Anniversary #GIVEAWAY

Behind the Schmile..:) is turning a year old! I’m so grateful for all of your support and the growth over this past year! To celebrate I’m hosting my first ever a giveaway and there will be THREE winners! Prize: £25 Amazon Gift Voucher How to Enter: Subscribe to the Newsletter via Email Engage on the following social media platforms to… Read more →

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Beware of ‘Uncles’

Today’s post is a rant for readers my age, a word of advice to readers slightly younger and hopefully a word of enlightenment to readers much older. The subject: uncles It’s an unfortunate reality many young girls face- not one that I believe requires any form of legal action in most cases, but one that is too greatly overlooked and… Read more →

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Staying Woke is Overwhelming

I’ll let you know right now that I won’t be ending this post with any tips or advice. I write this because I believe that it is important to stay woke, but I also place a high importance on self-care and I’m struggling to find a balance between the two. Woke: A state of perceived intellectual superiority one gains by… Read more →

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Do You Inspire Yourself?

TimeHop is by far my favourite app! I sometimes get so caught up in trying to be a better me that I forget that I already am! It can be cringe at times (in fact most of the time) but there are often moments that I am in awe of myself. Inspiration I often pride myself on being self-motivated, but… Read more →

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“I’m Not Ready Yet”

Okay, but when will you be ready? The thing about fear is that it presents itself in so many forms that sometimes we fail to recognise it. I’m sure you’ve said these words before, I definitely have. Two years into what you thought was progressing relationship, he tells you he isn’t ready to commit. Five years into your career and… Read more →

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Education does not Equal Success

You already know this: education is not equal to success. It can even be argued that educational success itself is not success, or at least not the epitome of it. What is Success? According to my favourite source,, success is: The favourable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavours; the accomplishment of one’s goals. The attainment of wealth, position,… Read more →