This is for the 20-something-year-old who thinks they are having a quarter life crisis. This is for the person who thinks they should have their life figured out but can’t decide which socks to wear. This is for anyone who is struggling to find a balance in life whilst striving for success.
A word of encouragement to start you off: you aren’t as lazy as you think!
You’re probably just mentally debilitated.
Have your juices run out and left you crippled? Working hard and making achievements but still feeling as though it isn’t enough? No longer ‘hungry’ enough to keep striving on?
As a quarter-life crisis coping mechanism, you’ve probably tried to convince yourself that it’s okay to be mediocre. There is only one Beyoncé. Not everyone can win and this is not worth losing sleep over. The only positive of such a discouraging mind-set is that you have probably relieved yourself of a lot of pressure! It’s probably a lot easier to simply get on with life when you stop setting the bar ‘too high’. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being content with your current state in life- but are you content?
For many, part of this frustration stems from a temporary inability to identify their purpose in life. I get it. I’ve been there too. It can seem absolutely pointless to put so much time and effort into something you’re unsure about.
But as I matured (just a lil bit), I grew in appreciation of the fact that God is, was and always has been in control. The only justification and confirmation I need is found in Him. Even if the path I am on isn’t the final one, it’s a season with a reason. Life’s lessons are limitless (Limitless Life Lessons); reap from your current situation and be reminded that nothing lasts forever.
Ultimately, if you’re willing to settle for mediocrity, you’re volunteering to be a basic bitch. If that’s what you want then, by all means, stop reading now because I have no further words for you.
“So you’re a basic bitch?”
These aren’t words you should profess onto your life; the power of the tongue is NOT to be toyed with. If you perceive yourself as mediocre, you project yourself as mediocre to the world- you only emit what you absorb.
So okay, you’ve accepted all of this but you’re still in your quarter life crisis. You feel as if you’ve already done everything that is physically possible to get to where you want to be. So, what next?
This is where that balance when striving for success comes in. If you wholeheartedly believe that you have done the most and done your best, sit back, relax and wait. Our generation is so obsessed with seeming busy and ‘making movements’, we forget to let our efforts speak for themselves. The problem probably isn’t even that you aren’t getting anywhere or making progress- you probably just haven’t taken a long enough break to admire the results.
Work. Struggle. Achieve. Repeat.
We fall into this cycle where we never reap the benefits of our hard work. I even believed that I wasn’t allowed to enjoy benefits until I had the big final result. But you have to appreciate the small rewards too. It’s these small rewards that kept me going- that showed me the beauty in my struggle and reignited my desire.
Strive towards finding a balance rather than just success. I’m no longer a slave to the belief that I need to suffer in order to succeed. The struggle can be real, but it shouldn’t be forever. Enjoy what you can today because you can’t live life in wait for the big rewards that might never come, and that way if they do come, you’ll already know how to make the most of them.
We’re all still learning and growing so be easy on yourself. Part of growing into an adult is understanding how humans function best: working at your natural frequency and maintaining resonance. Some people are wired up to work like machines and if this is where you feel most comfortable, by all means, continue. But even computers need to shut down and update every so often.
The equilibrium in enough: a state of balance between motivation to work hard towards goals and the appreciation of past/current efforts.
This balance doesn’t have to be 50-50; it should be whatever works for you.
Have you found your equilibrium?