Staying Woke is Overwhelming

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I’ll let you know right now that I won’t be ending this post with any tips or advice. I write this because I believe that it is important to stay woke, but I also place a high importance on self-care and I’m struggling to find a balance between the two.

Woke:

A state of perceived intellectual superiority one gains by reading The Huffington Post – Urban Dictionary

Getting woke is like being in the Matrix and taking the red pill. You get a sudden understanding of what’s really going on and find out you were wrong about much of what you understood to be the truth – Urban Dictionary

Having a high level of spiritual enlightenment. Seeing the truth with your mind’s eye, allowing you to reach higher consciousness – Urban Dictionary

Being socially aware – lil ol’ me 🙂

Read the most woke definition of woke there is here

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You could say I was woke before being woke was a thing; I have always been intrigued by social injustice. My history class got me interested long before #StayWoke became a popular saying in the Twitter community. But learning about the social injustices of the past and waking up to them on a daily basis will have totally different impacts on your well-being. I want to know what’s going on in the world. I want to be educated enough to formulate my own opinions on situations. And I want to be able to understand why certain things happen to certain people and who is responsible. But I also want to be able to sleep peacefully without feeling so hopeless and useless. And it would also be great if I wasn’t constantly reminded of how cruel this world is.

So how do I do both?

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At one point I thought I had found the balance. Summer 2016 felt like a war on black people. These things happen every day; I’m not oblivious to that, but this period, in particular, took its toll on me. During this period I decided to prioritise my self-care over my ability to stay woke. I stopped reading the news, I filtered my timeline and I watched my favourite Disney movies. This kept me in my happy place, at least temporarily, but it also made me ignorant.

Back in April of 2017 I tried again. I was watching Shots Fired, Underground and The Kalief Browder Story every Thursday Night and I had almost desensitised myself. Watching these shows didn’t make me woke; neither did they highlight issues I wasn’t already aware of. But developing a routine where Thursday evenings would be dedicated to increasing my emotional instability made it easier for my heart to bear. So when another unarmed black person was shot outside of a TV-drama, I didn’t feel a thing. This time I wasn’t ignorant, and my wokeness wasn’t heightened, I was simply disconnected.

But of course, social injustice doesn’t begin and end with black people. My mental state with regards to the affairs of the world still needed help. So I did a very selfish thing and stopped watching/reading the news completely. But I’m a person that likes to know everything and so that didn’t last long.

Why bother?

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So here we are in October…

I’m still reading, watching documentaries, filtering out ridiculous conspiracy theory claims and paying too much attention to every little detail. Over time I guess my heart has learnt how to cope with the pain but it’s still there and I haven’t yet found a life-changing solution to all of the world’s problems. I’m still woke. But has there been any benefit?

I spoke about wanting to find a balance but fundamentally my intentions are selfish. Maybe there is no balance… Simple logic tells us that it’s impossible to be woke and asleep simultaneously. Ultimately, if I know what’s going on and still have a good night’s sleep, I won’t feel compelled to action. But I’m not a superhero, (yes this is me being selfish again), and I don’t want to be! Yet I can’t shake this constant battle in my mind where I feel somewhat responsible for doing my part.

Sometimes we just need to be or simply exist. But we can’t ignore what is going on around us…can we? I’m privileged to know some very interesting people: some who have dreams of changing the world and some who just want to change their own lives. I have the utmost respect and love for both of them. But I feel like I’m the only one stuck in the middle and quite frankly, staying woke is overwhelming!

A Solution???

As a final note, I will say this: staying woke and being happy are not mutually exclusive. A combination of time, meditation and isolation have taught me that the world will be what it will be. We as humans have the power to make an impact but we cannot change people’s hearts. Only God can do this. So although staying woke is extremely overwhelming, it is just another thing I have to hand over to the Father if I want to remain at peace with myself.

Stay Woke/Schleep/Happy (delete as you find appropriate),

Tisha x

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Would you describe yourself as woke? If so, how do you maintain good mental health? Let me know in the comments!

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  1. October 15, 2017 / 1:31 am

    I really relate with this Tisha! I spent a lot of time over the past few years consuming tons of information in the name of staying woke and self development (which are definitely needed things) but it can certainly get overwhelming. Especially when you start to see so many polarising points of view. The same one thing can seem totally right and yet totally wrong…

    This all seems to echo the book of Lamentations at times, the meaninglessness of it all. But balance is the key. How we get it only God knows. For now I pray for wisdom and to make sure my actions are loving towards others, for what good is woke knowledge without wise action??

    Once again, shweet post!

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 9:18 am

      “One thing can seem totally right and yet totally wrong” until you said this I didn’t even realise that in all honestly this has been my biggest struggle: the confusion that comes with staying woke!
      Definitely gonna have to go back and read Lamentations again with an open mind!
      YES YES YES- “what good is woke knowledge without wise action”. Our application is what is most important!!!
      Thank you for this- always coming through in the comments!🔥

  2. October 15, 2017 / 5:17 am

    Sis when I tell you I’ve been so SCHLEEP, especially since the last election cycle.I cannot and will not stay angry 24 hours of every God given day. I’m tired af yo. Some people expect you to devote every status to talking about the most recent tragedy and I’m reclaiming my damn social media presence from that. Cuz I live this every day. I don’t have to talk about it to prove wokeness. And I think that’s the exhausing piece of it all. Not only are you expected to b wired, you’re expected to prove it in acceptable ways. Don’t get me wrong, I get it. And we’re not above some sizing p on our dedication. But being angry all day is not good for anybody’s mental health. People like me like to take break. so nuh uh.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 9:20 am

      😂😂😂schleep is a away of life I have forgotten how to live and I hate it! Reclaim your time! I totally agree, being woke and presenting yourself as woke are too completely different issues, people seem more focussed on keeping up appearances as always🙄 I’m glad you’re confident in your decision to be schleep- this is where I’m tryna be! Thank you for the wisdom as always!!!💙

      • October 16, 2017 / 2:55 pm

        This post needs to be revisted over and over lol every time you or anyone who’s read this feels overwhelmed by society, this link needs to be dropped back into their life. Cuz it’s so real.

        • TishaKimiira
          October 16, 2017 / 5:36 pm

          😂😂😂i hope my confusion is helpful to someone lol! We’re all trying to figure this life thing out

  3. October 15, 2017 / 1:23 pm

    Thats true, we cant change people’s heart. I don’t know how to describe my self but i’m always about self-care :)) and its the first thing i think of. Great post, hope you get of the struggles :))

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 1:26 pm

      Thank you so much for reading! I agree that self-care should be a major priority! 🙂

  4. October 15, 2017 / 1:40 pm

    Honestly staying woke is so tiring I agree. It’s also tiring trying to educate friends and family about their problematic ways. I had to stop listening to too much of the news and just living life.

    https://www.elaishajade.com/

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 1:43 pm

      Glad you can relate! Sometimes it feels like I’m alone in my struggles 😂Thanks for reading!💙

  5. October 15, 2017 / 2:10 pm

    Ah the eternal dilemma. Trying to stay up to date, the need to make a change and the need to develop my own educated and well researched opinions has left me paralyzed more than once in life. Sometimes I resent the people who can just disconnect and go about their lives without having a concern for the injustices happening in the world. When that happens I have to talk to like minded people and then talk to someone who tells me that its going to be okay (mostly my mother). Ultimately it all comes down to having faith that justice will prevail either here or in the hereafter.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 2:26 pm

      This is extremely true! Faith is what we all need to keep going! It’s very easy to feel resentment towards others but I can totally understand why some choose to withdraw from it altogether! Thank you so much for reading!💙

  6. October 15, 2017 / 2:28 pm

    Wouldn’t describe myself as being woke, but I do from time to time try to keep up with what’s going on around me. On some days it becomes too much and I have to take a step back. Would love to say I can ignore it but its something that’s happening regardless. Just gotta hope for change and try not to take on too much…

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 2:48 pm

      I agree- ignoring it isn’t an option at this point but taking ‘breaks’ are useful to keep you in a healthy head space. Thanks for reading!💙

  7. October 15, 2017 / 3:15 pm

    I can see how staying woke can be overwhelming. But it’s important to be conscious of what’s going on in the world. Personally, I don’t find it overwhelming. I find the injustices and people not being held accountable for their actions overwhelming. Hopefully, you can one day find a balance between staying woke and happiness.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 3:27 pm

      I’m the same, learning and gaining knowledge isn’t what overwhelms me, it’s what I learn that takes its toll on me- I guess I wasn’t clear lol. Regardless I agree that it’s important to be aware! Thank you for reading!💙

  8. October 15, 2017 / 3:58 pm

    100% relatable. Like, you I was “woke” before it became “mainstream” LOL (although I don’t use the term “woke” or brag about it) so I’ve always balanced out being aware and keeping my peace of mind. Nonetheless of how much of a black sheep I may feel socially, I still love learning and gaining new knowledge.

    Kendro

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 4:07 pm

      Gaining new knowledge is always great! Finding balance is the next step for me! Thanks for reading! 🙂 x

  9. Autum
    October 15, 2017 / 4:21 pm

    I love this post!! It’s teally important to find a balance because we have to take care of ourselves mentally but not to the point where we are oblivious to real issues

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 4:43 pm

      So glad you liked it- thanks for the support as always! 🙂 x

  10. October 15, 2017 / 5:50 pm

    Great post. Meditation enables us to regain the balance in life.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 6:50 pm

      Thank you for reading! 🙂

  11. October 15, 2017 / 6:13 pm

    This is SO relatable. I deal with it by limiting my news cycle exposure to the weekends as much as possible. Self-care is a must daily. Meditation, music, entertaining podcasts, rich novels and friends are my therapy.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 6:51 pm

      You’re right: self-care is a daily requirement, staying woke can be limited! Thanks for reading 🙂 x

  12. Judaea
    October 15, 2017 / 6:32 pm

    This article is so true and a must read

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 6:50 pm

      Thank you so much! 🙂 x

  13. October 15, 2017 / 9:30 pm

    My God. I may have to stretch before writing this.

    So here’s the thing: I’m not American, and i feel like being born far away caused me to arrive to “wokeland” much later than if I had been a Black person in America all along.

    When I moved here, I was definitely in the camp of “don’t do anything wrong and you will be just fine.” I mean , that was my experience, right?

    Coming to terms with the racial tension in America, as well as the social Injustice, was honestly scarring. I felt like such an idiot for not seeing and understanding things sooner. Trayvon’s death stirred some emotions in my heart I didn’t even know I harbored. I sobbed at Zimmerman’s verdict. And then everything started to look like an attack, and then summer 2016 happened, and then I felt like I was prisoner in the sickest nightmare ever.

    I honestly don’t have an answer either. I vacillate between working on being aware but functional, or full on crying when yet another unarmed person loses their life. You’re right, it’s exhausting; however, not getting those emotions makes us “not woke”, or even worse- woke but resigned.

    I dunno man. I dunno.

    http://www.dafrastar.com

    • TishaKimiira
      October 15, 2017 / 10:49 pm

      You’ve said you don’t have an answer but honestly it’s just refreshing to know that someone else has had the same struggles.
      You mentioned not knowing you had certain emotions until things happened and I can definitely relate to this. A lot of events occurred that were obviously saddening but then I would find myself reacting in the most outrageous ways to something on such a smaller scale bc I was bottling up my feelings. I think I’m getting closer to finding the balance, but I think the biggest contributor to that is simply that we aren’t hearing as much in the news right now- not because I finally find a way to stay healthy mentally whilst being woke. If I continue we’ll both end up writing an extension to the post in the comments lol. But thank you for reading! 🙂 x

  14. October 15, 2017 / 11:48 pm

    It is so settling to know I am not the only one struggling with this! Trying to be an advocate for what’s right and not being consumed by the negativity is hard! Watching the news is overwhelming but to not know creates even more anxiety! I have found that disconnecting from all social media and avoiding the news for a little while helps me to decompress! Also reading other things outside of the news is relieveing! Being able to be in someone else’s world for a few helps a lot! I’m currently engulfed in Zinzi Clemmons “What We Lose” and its a awesome distraction!

    • TishaKimiira
      October 16, 2017 / 12:37 am

      I’m glad you pointed this out: reading is definitely a great escape for me and sometimes I feel ‘guilty’ for wanting to escape but I think as everyone has said, self care comes first. We can’t change the world overnight and we definitely can’t change the world if we aren’t in the right head space. Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to comment!💙

  15. October 16, 2017 / 1:47 am

    First off, WOW! And secondly your not alone in this struggle. I feel exactly how you feel. I feel like I should be woke but when I am Watch the news and try to be informed I feel depressed and come to hate the world we live in because everything on the news someone has killed someone or this or that. And it’s not that I don’t care because I do but again like you what am I suppose to do to fix it. Part of me does want to be self and ignorant sometimes because like they say it is bliss. Finding happiness is hard enough without all the craziness in the world. But I feel that it is important to be aware finding the balance though well idk if there is any. I think it’s a matter of being able to better cope with what is happening in the world, than a balance because watching even the smallest amount of news sometimes makes my heartache and makes me angry because I don’t understand why sometimes.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 16, 2017 / 7:59 am

      I’m honestly so glad that so many people can relate bc it felt like I was the only one who was struggling 😩 I think learning to cope is finding the balance, I guess it’s learning how to manage your emotions. I dunno lol 🤷🏽‍♀️But thank you for your support as always!💙

  16. October 16, 2017 / 4:29 am

    As I am probably old enough to be your mother, I have been woke for quite some time now. This is something new for millennials but not for the generations that came before. I am just glad that young people are waking up. I was becoming a bit scared that the struggles of our ancestors would be forgotten. So I say thank you.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 16, 2017 / 8:00 am

      Haha I think a lot of us are definitely awake, we just don’t know how to apply this knowledge to action yet! Thank you for reading!💙

  17. October 16, 2017 / 11:58 am

    Nice post. When I hear someone tell me to stay “woke”, I truly think of School Daze at the end when Larry Fishburne’s character DAP goes around telling everyone to “Wake UP.” I try my best to say “Woke”, but to be honest, this racial society and political nonsense, make we want to sleep, until I think things are better for my brain. Things will never be better, but better for me to cope and live. This may not be the answer for others, but for me, it suites me just fine.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 16, 2017 / 12:11 pm

      I can totally understand and appreciate why this approach is better for you. Sometimes I feel exactly the same. Thank you for reading!💙

  18. October 16, 2017 / 12:53 pm

    Good article

  19. October 16, 2017 / 4:00 pm

    I think I’m semi-woke. Staying on top of everything and being involved in all of the deep discussions is exhausting. I like to keep a certain level of liteness to my life. Doing so may make me a little naive but it also keeps me sane.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 16, 2017 / 5:28 pm

      I’d think I’d rather be naive and sane than excessively woke and distraught- regardless I doubt that you’re naive!!! Thanks for reading x

  20. October 16, 2017 / 4:05 pm

    I think all Americans should be required to go out and join the Peace Corps or Americorps, so they can be put out in completely alien places and force them to learn to relate. 2016 wasn’t just a war on blacks, but a war on empathy, sensibility, and so on. I look at my country to day, now safely from abroad, and just see a bunch of people completely devoid of the ability to sit down and talk, to relate, to feel some empathy. And it’s sad that now blacks and other POCs are trying to do just that, and whites (my “people”) are getting all crazy and defensive about things. Makes me ashamed.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 16, 2017 / 5:30 pm

      I think there is a lack of empathy within the world as a whole tbh! I completely agree, the war stems much further than race and there is social injustice globally, not just in America. This is a very interesting perspective and I really appreciate you sharing! 🙂 x

  21. October 16, 2017 / 4:17 pm

    This is really good. I think the hardest parts right now is this administration in Congress is constantly doing something and it makes it harder to avoid (because some of these things can actually affect my quality of life personally) trying to stay aware of how I’ve been socialized to think and behave (and thinking toxic things are okay, and weeding out conspiracy (especially because COINTELPRO happened so I can’t wholeheartedly put anything past people in power lol). I think self care is key though. It’s okay to keep a balance and take a break. PS. last summer was hard on me too especially going in to work and hearing ignorance, bleh.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 16, 2017 / 5:32 pm

      Thank you so much- I agree that sometimes a break is important otherwise we can lose sight of what it is we’re fighting for! Ignorance is honestly the cherry on top, you think you’ve got everything cleared up in your head, you transition from anger to a state of acceptance that the world is a mess, you’re somewhat calm and then BAM someone hits you with an ignorant comment!!! I can definitely relate lol

  22. October 16, 2017 / 8:51 pm

    I maintain good mental health by making sure despite all the madness I make time out for my self. It’s called nelly time.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 16, 2017 / 8:54 pm

      I love that! Time I start having some Tisha time!!!

  23. October 17, 2017 / 3:39 am

    Being woke is hard & a journey… I’m on the journey now but I don’t think I’m doing it 4 anyone other than myself … To some degree it seems like being woke is to be selfish? Bcoz we have to fix ourselves first …. ?!

    • TishaKimiira
      October 17, 2017 / 8:33 am

      I love this! I never looked at it this way but this is very true: shaping who we are and how we think in order to help shape a better world! Thank you for reading!💙

  24. October 17, 2017 / 10:29 am

    Hey Tisha. This one is tough. It is a hard balance. I find myself relating to many of the feelings that you had throughout this post. When I am woke something inside of me feels like do something … and it is not always good. I usually get mentally drained then, like you, I take a break and I go from woke to sleep. I have found that have dialogue with my one of my colleagues helped me stay balanced. He kept me informed, but it wasn’t as graphic and detailed as I would get from the media. Then I was also able to sort through my feelings without feeling like starting a protest down town.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 17, 2017 / 10:35 am

      Hey Toni! Having someone to discuss things with sounds like a great idea! Thank you so much for reading, I’m glad you can relate and thank you for the suggestion! I’ll be giving it a try!💙

  25. October 17, 2017 / 11:24 am

    I guess you could say I have spent my whole life walking that happiness versus hopeless line. My mom always made sure that we paid attention to social injustice in the world. Now that I am older, I know that there are many instances of life not being fair and that there is blame on all sides. That keeps me grounded, because I realize that all I can control is the good that I do. Along with not creating more injustice, I try to pay attention to situations that could benefit from me raising my voice to help. Life is not fair, now that my mom is gone, I realize that life is too short to just focus on the bad. Thanks for sharing!

    • TishaKimiira
      October 17, 2017 / 11:48 am

      I needed this reminder: “all I can control is the good that I do”
      Life is definitely too short- thank you for sharing these wise words!!!💙

  26. October 17, 2017 / 11:40 am

    This is again a great moving article from you. Thanks for sharing.

  27. yourgirlsudanny
    October 17, 2017 / 2:18 pm

    Great post!! I don’t think I’m as woke as I should be! Definitely something to improve on!😊

    • TishaKimiira
      October 17, 2017 / 2:27 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for reading 💙

  28. October 17, 2017 / 6:27 pm

    It’s hard to stay woke in this society. It’s even harder to wake the others. To stay woke and know the truth is going to cost you something, peace, etc. I can’t afford to lose something that priceless.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 17, 2017 / 6:29 pm

      It will definitely cost you peace, it has already cost me a lot. Thank you for reading!

  29. NICHOLE SHIRELL
    October 18, 2017 / 1:16 am

    I love it. Shared on fb and twitter

  30. October 18, 2017 / 2:25 am

    Girl the way this country is set up, it’s so hard not to be woke. The foolishness that is happening has my head hurting. Sometimes I just have to do a social detox because EVERYTHING is so publicized.

    • TishaKimiira
      October 18, 2017 / 3:37 am

      I completely agree! My social media break helped me mentally and when I came back there was just more bad news to catch up on 😩Thank you for reading!💙

  31. October 18, 2017 / 6:42 am

    I couldn’t agree more. I too have tried to gather every possible useful and useless info into my crammed head. i surely cant claim that it make me happy, though it made me feel Wokier (A new word?). So ya, as you say not necessarily inclusive is it?

    • TishaKimiira
      October 18, 2017 / 8:07 am

      Glad you agree! There are more people dealing with this than I thought. If anything, learning more weighs down on you even more! Thanks for reading 💙

  32. October 18, 2017 / 9:37 am

    Staying woke can be really hard in the world that we live in. I don’t watch news anymore because I believe if something is important then I will definitely know it if not then it is not important. I think it comes down to staying woke and staying positive in all circumstances. And if you know there is something you can do about it then take some action. Great post, Tisha. Thanks for sharing

    • TishaKimiira
      October 18, 2017 / 9:59 am

      Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to comment- I really do appreciate hearing everyone’s opinion on the topic! Trying to stay positive in such a negative world is all we can really do at this point! 💙

  33. October 18, 2017 / 7:21 pm

    You’re right being woke is exhausting but being ‘sleep’ is ignorant. I’m just trying to be as focused as I can on the REAL news and not the fake stuff our president spews. This post was phenomenally written

    • TishaKimiira
      October 18, 2017 / 7:38 pm

      Haha which is everything he says😂Thank you for reading! I appreciate your feedback 💙

  34. October 18, 2017 / 7:49 pm

    This was such a deep, though provoking read.
    A lot more people have to see this.
    I will be sharing this.

    Wow.
    Unfortunately, being woke isn’t easy. It’s actually a heavier burden to carry.
    The easy way out is to remain ignorant and obey propaganda.
    Then, at least, we can put all of our power, our earnings, our health, and future in the governments hands.

    To be woke is to swim in the other direction of the stream, and we all know that is quite difficult to maintain continuously.

    But if your beliefs are strong enough then God will provide enough strength to power your will.

    Much love and appreciation, sis.

    K.Kavali <3

    • TishaKimiira
      October 18, 2017 / 8:18 pm

      Thank you so much- I really appreciate this and I’m so glad that it impacted you!
      I agree, with God all things are possible- including finding the strength to stay woke and maintaining peace of mind. You’ve answered my question- THANK YOU!!!!!
      💙💙💙

  35. Sheena Steward
    November 1, 2017 / 2:10 pm

    It has become over popularized and when that happens everyone wants to “live” it but not really live it. It’s cool to wear the shirts and quote the #s but what else are we doing? I like you have been there before it was cool. I was a kid in the 90s trying to get rebell flags removed and organizing bus boycott. Now like you said we have to find a true balance in being woke and not being ado woke we can’t sleep.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 1, 2017 / 8:45 pm

      It’s definitely over popularized, people are more concerned about making appearances than fighting a cause. Thank you for reading! 🙂 x

  36. nabilaraine
    November 1, 2017 / 2:34 pm

    Staying woke is definitely overwhelming. I have gone through a similar battle with myself. I want to be aware of what is going on around me but I also need to have some piece of mind. I feel like there needs to be a balance between the two because we don’t want to be oblivious to things happenig to our people but we also don’t want to take on every single problem as are own. That can really take a mental toll on us. I personally let me self see things but slowly.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 1, 2017 / 8:44 pm

      Taking things slowly has definitely helped me a lot recently- this is tried and test advice lol! Thanks for sharing and reading x

  37. November 1, 2017 / 4:56 pm

    I can definitely relate to all of this. It is extremely exhausting when there’s so much going on. I’ve felt helpless many times but I’ve come to the conclusion that it takes each and every single person on this planet to care and I can’t do it alone and I also can’t beat myself up about it anymore!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 1, 2017 / 8:46 pm

      I agree- it isn’t a battle won in isolation! Thank you for reading x

  38. Shae
    November 2, 2017 / 3:50 am

    I really feel you on this! Actually made a YouTube video about it! I started off on my spiritual journey in the Black conscious groups but after years of that I separated myself because I found that I wasn’t happy! It takes time meditation and self love to reach a place where you are at peace no matter what! When I first stated I was lost and I felt like there were so many things that I was doing wrong, I was mad and I was overly emotional! I found myself not wanting to be around white people smh After years of working at it Being awake is a blissful experience! I had to learn to start looking for the good in everything once I did that staying “woke” wasn’t as hard.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 2, 2017 / 9:01 am

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I guess ultimately finding the balance comes down to gratitude- seeing the good in everything as you’ve said. It’s hard but nothing is impossible- thank you for sharing your perspective!💙

  39. November 2, 2017 / 9:31 am

    While staying woke can be exhausting and painful we have to stay that way or continue to suffer the consequences. That’s why self-care is important and stepping away from wokeness every once and awhile is essential as long as you come back.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 2, 2017 / 10:10 am

      I agree- periodic breaks are essential for a healthy wellbeing because we most certainly can’t afford to be ignorant! Thanks for reading! x

  40. November 2, 2017 / 4:44 pm

    Being woke is tiring, especially when you don’t do anything with the information you know. Knowledge is power, but we need to use our power too.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 2, 2017 / 5:48 pm

      Definitely agree with this! Thank for reading x

  41. Kita
    November 2, 2017 / 11:23 pm

    I’ve honestly stopped consuming all the info. It’s far to overwhelming. What I do is support local charities that care for our own. I also take my children to volunteer to say can see and learn about the world around them and the privileges they do have.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 3, 2017 / 12:01 pm

      It’s great that you’re doing this for your children!!! Thank you so much for sharing! Actions speak much louder than un-utilised knowledge! Thanks for reading 💙

  42. staciesayzso
    November 2, 2017 / 11:50 pm

    It’s tough. I feel like there’s so much going on in this world, seems like I’m taking the red pill in everywhere I go. My community, the grocery store. All I know is Jesus is coming y’all. Lbvs.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 3, 2017 / 12:02 pm

      He’a definitely coming😂thank you for reading!💙

  43. November 3, 2017 / 1:10 am

    Girl, just the title of this says it all. It’s literally so exhausting and there’s some new tragedy happening every day. It’s important that we slow down and remember that we take care of ourselves too. Thanks for sharing this!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 3, 2017 / 12:03 pm

      I hope it was helpful! Thanks for reading!💙

  44. cleverlychanging
    November 3, 2017 / 12:18 pm

    I don’t think balance about “woke” things exist. It’s just that you have to stay grounded so you don’t grow bitter as you learn the reality of the world.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 3, 2017 / 12:24 pm

      I’ve thought this myself several times tbh! Thanks for stopping by! 🙂 x

  45. November 3, 2017 / 2:52 pm

    I find myself conflicted with remaining socially aware and anchored in my spirtuality. The definitley conflict with one another. As being socially aware tends to trigger angry emotions while my spiritually bring me peace. It is a tough balance. This is an awesome blog post.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 3, 2017 / 8:05 pm

      Thank you so much for reading – I’m glad you could relate!!!

  46. November 3, 2017 / 3:36 pm

    First of all YES! Finding a balance can be a struggle. I want to be informed and I don’t want to accept this as normal and standard. Yet I have to protect my mental health and I can’t shoulder all of the injustice. It is tough, but like we always do we figure it out. I long for the day when we can be equal, hell I would take 80% of equality. We can start there.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 3, 2017 / 8:06 pm

      Haha it’s definitely a strong start! So glad I’m not alone! Thank you for reading luvie 🙂 x

  47. November 3, 2017 / 11:31 pm

    This is a great post! I agree, we should stay woke and aware, but we can also be happy and know that God is ultimately in control.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 4, 2017 / 12:05 am

      Happy to hear that you enjoyed it! Thank you so much for reading x

  48. November 6, 2017 / 11:57 pm

    I totally feel this!! ALL of this! I tell people all the time that you can stay woke but also protect your mental health.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 7, 2017 / 12:27 am

      Glad you can relate! Thanks for reading!

  49. November 7, 2017 / 1:29 am

    Preach sis! Trust me, I hear you. It often times becomes just extremely draining hearing one story after the next about our people being done wrong, at times I do want to tune things out with happier things like nice movies, similar to you. Taking a “break” from it all. I agree it’s weird, getting to the point of feeling kind of numbed to the pain associated with being “woke” and not knowing what to do and questioning if there is a way to do something and at the same time not feeling so emotionally or mentally beat up. Great post!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 7, 2017 / 8:56 am

      Thank you so much!!!!! I’m honestly so glad people have been able to relate!!! 💙

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