Lessons From My Social Media Break

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I took a break from blogging which almost instantly turned into a social media break. Here are a few of the lessons I learnt:

Some People Won’t Notice

Let’s get one thing clear, I didn’t expect many people to notice. After all, there are only a handful of ‘friends’ that I would say I’m checking for. If those few people stopped tweeting or posting snaps I’d notice, but the other 95% wouldn’t even register as absent. So it came as no shock to me that people weren’t aware that I was away.

But it also served as a reminder that people don’t notice because they don’t care. Many of us (myself included) are guilty of sharing too much: using these social media platforms as public diaries, tweeting out every thought and posting 2-minute long Snapchat rants. People may read, watch or simply tap through, giving the odd comment, but ultimately, they don’t care.

Some People Will Notice

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This is what genuinely did surprise me: the number of people that reached out to me because they had seen that I was inactive across virtually all platforms AND who these people were. I’ve mentioned a few times that it can feel as though we are lonely or lacking in support, but the reality is that often, the support system we have is made up of individuals we never expected it from.

I’m human, I will admit that it’s absolutely great to feel wanted, appreciated and simply noticed- especially by those from whom it is least expected. It’s also great to be reminded that I’m not alone and that my efforts, especially on this blog, are not going to waste.

Life Feels More Genuine

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Ever post a snap where your wig is laid, your highlight is popping and all your squatting has paid off? Then suddenly the number in that red bubble keeps growing and guys you haven’t spoken to in years wanna ‘chill’? The worst part is you weren’t even planning to thirst trap, you were just slaying as per usual. Or maybe you just got a new car, you posted a picture on Instagram and now everyone you know wants to make plans with you so that you can take them for a spin.

Whatever the case may be, you probably always have it in the back of your mind that some of the conversations you have on social media with people, that stem from your ‘highlight reel’ aren’t genuine- there is usually an ulterior motive. This isn’t their fault. We all do it. We see the best parts of someone’s life and we want to be involved somehow.

Taking this social media break reminded me of what it felt like to have purely genuine conversations. Because the ingenuine people didn’t have access to my life’s highlights, I wasn’t on their mind and they weren’t disturbing mine.

Sleep is Better

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Possibly because I was buried in less of other people’s stress… But most likely because a lot fewer people kept me up at night. I slept so much better during this period. I thought I LOVED sleep, but now sleep and I have connected on a much deeper, spiritual level!

My Mind is Focussed

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It’s very easy to get caught up in anything and everything, especially when boredom strikes. I’ll be honest, the first week was harder than I had anticipated. When I got tired of Netflix or ran out of YouTube videos to watch, my first instinct was to either check the timeline or take a look at my blog to-do list and see what I could get done.

My mini-hiatus gave me the time to think about proper issues in my life, such as what colour to paint my nails or which pair of shoes I should add to my basket. But all jokes aside, during this period of ‘boredom’ when an issue arose, I dealt with it straight away because I was forced to focus on it rather than give into distractions.

We All Live in Isolation

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I say communication is dead because people will see you through social media and assume that this is enough. You are alive, they can see what’s going on in your life and that is all they need to know. Someone once admitted to me that although they knew they should check up on me regularly, they often ‘forgot’ because they had seen a snap or tweet. This my dear friends is not what I would call ‘checking up’ on someone, but each to their own.

Although I’m currently in a good place, I know how easy it is to fake things. It was a reminder of how easy it is to fall into a dark place and stay there because nobody bothers with you as long as you post your regular Sunday Selfies with a Schmile! It’s crazy how much people think they know about your life because of the 30-second story you posted- literally 0.035% of your day.

Do it for the Gram

I wouldn’t describe myself as a social media whore, but maybe I’m in denial. I’ll admit that there are things I do for the sake of social media- not because of who will see but because I simply like posting. It’s weird but I’m sure I’m not the only one. Snapchat, in particular, was my weakness. When my social media break first began, on many occasions, I pulled out my phone as had become a routine and was forced to put it away again.

I won’t get all fake deep and say I was able to ‘enjoy the moment’ more. I’ve never missed the moment by posting a 10-second snap in my opinion. But it did open up my eyes to just how much I have accustomed myself to sharing. Not that sharing is bad, but a lot of it isn’t necessary.

Cut Out Comparison

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Comparison was limited to what I had actually seen, people I actually knew and periods of struggle that I was a first-hand witness too. Long story short, your girl is waaaaaaay more confident than she was a while ago. You don’t realise how insecure you are until you stop being so insecure.

Mental Health Matters

A lot occurred in the world during the time in which I was on my social media break. My home city in particular felt like it was under attack. Arguably selfish: distance from others’ opinions helped me deal with my emotions at my own pace in my own space.

One major downside to this hiatus was that I was left out of the loop with regards to global issues. It’s no secret that a lot of the major news stories in the world never actually make headlines. Despite not always being factual, Twitter has always been a source of information in this regard. During my break, being that I am not one to go and dig up news stories, I was only exposed to what mainstream media would tell me.

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If you’re thinking about taking a social media break, I highly recommend it! If you’ve taken one before, please share your experiences and lessons with me in the comments section!

All the best,

Tisha x

#Schmile

PS – My battery life did not improve unfortunately

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  24 comments for “Lessons From My Social Media Break

  1. July 6, 2017 at 12:25 am

    ! Love this. Social media breaks are important! I find it easy to take a break from Instagram and snapchat but I struggle with Twitter. Surprisingly, Twitter is where most of my anxiety and low moods stems from. It’s almost as if I can’t live without Twitter. I’m plugged in 24 hours, 7 days a week.

    And it’s true that many people won’t notice you’re gone apart from close friends! But in fast digital world we defo gotta take breaks and socialise in person.

    • TishaKimiira
      July 6, 2017 at 7:13 am

      I’m the same!!! Since my ‘return’ snapchat and instagram have been more or less neglected. I’ve found that being on Twitter isn’t necessarily a problem, I just need to limit what I share. Glad you enjoyed this πŸ’™

  2. July 6, 2017 at 3:24 pm

    Very engaging and great read (as usual)!

    • TishaKimiira
      July 6, 2017 at 4:32 pm

      Thank you! Appreciate the support 😊

  3. July 6, 2017 at 4:56 pm

    Social media breaks are so important for your mental health especially in the generation we live in where people are always comparing themselves to friends and strangers alike. “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

    Not only that, sometimes the cycle of drama and negativity can be taxing on my mood so I’ve found that unplugging every once in a while, even if just for a day, helps my mood drastically.

    Great read!

    • TishaKimiira
      July 6, 2017 at 5:39 pm

      Now that I’ve taken a proper break I totally agree! Definitely something I should do on a regular basis, bring me back down to reality again! Thanks for reading πŸ’™

  4. July 6, 2017 at 5:17 pm

    This was sooooo good!! I was reading this and felt everything you said because I took a break myself and experience all this. Mental health is REAL and I urge everyone to take a break or two!

    xo,

    AΓ―chatou Bella
    http://www.stilettosandstandards.com

    • TishaKimiira
      July 6, 2017 at 5:39 pm

      Glad you could relate! Thank you for reading πŸ’™

  5. Autum
    July 6, 2017 at 5:35 pm

    I’ve can relate sometimes i’m so consumed with social media that I can barely concentrate to watch a movie with my family! Since social media is apart of my job it can be hard to break away, I need to create a schedule of how much time I spend on it.

    • TishaKimiira
      July 6, 2017 at 5:40 pm

      I can’t even begin to imagine how much harder it must be as a part of your job- but I would definitely recommend taking breaks whenever you can!!! Thank you so much for reading πŸ’™

  6. July 6, 2017 at 6:14 pm

    Very insightful! I do worry that taking such a social media break will cause the following that I work so hard on all my platforms to drop – people can be fickle lol. I also like to be consistent for my readers/audience but I would agree that taking a break is necessary sometimes. Especially when it gets overwhelming or it’s negatively impacting your real life. As you said – mental health matters! x

    • TishaKimiira
      July 6, 2017 at 7:02 pm

      Haha I know what you mean. But it was encouraging for me when people reached out to find out what was happening with me and the blog. The response since returning has also been amazing, if anything it’s reminded me of how much I love it and motivated me to be better! Don’t be afraid to take a break if things start to feel overwhelming- i’ll still read lol πŸ’™

      • July 6, 2017 at 7:48 pm

        Aww thanks lool! Appreciate it x

  7. July 7, 2017 at 12:43 am

    Very well said! Everyone needs a break. We start to let it consume us. We compare ourselves to everyone. We start to have heightened emotions with every criticism we get online. Turn off everything and zone into your why. We all need an escape. Very well written.

    • TishaKimiira
      July 7, 2017 at 7:17 am

      Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed it πŸ’™

  8. July 8, 2017 at 7:11 pm

    This is real! Especially the part about life being more genuine. I’m always annoyed at the “hey stranger” messages that pop up once you post on Instagram after several weeks of not posting. The same people who actually have my phone number. It’s always like, Did you need IG to remind you that I exist? Are you even going to TRY and pretend that this is not the case?

    • TishaKimiira
      July 8, 2017 at 7:15 pm

      It’s extremely annoying! I’ve been back for a week and nothing has frustrated me more! Thanks for reading πŸ’™

  9. Star Lengas
    July 9, 2017 at 10:44 am

    I’ve taken several SM hiatuses, I think the longest was 2 weeks and that was because I went to Africa. I realized how reliant I am on using SM to keep my busy or as a supplement when bored. Definitely taking time out to just enjoy life is a major benefit of a hiatus.

    • TishaKimiira
      July 9, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      Agreed! I took nearly a month off and learnt to live without- my sm usage/reliance has definitely improved. Thanks for reading!πŸ’™

  10. July 18, 2017 at 1:33 am

    I love the hability that you have to write so well! I always take a break from social media because, it can be a dark place sometimes. People don’t know how to respect your opinion, and others give up on their own views and personality just to follow strangers and trends. I agree with everything that you said, because I’m on Twitter since 2010, and I lived a lot of phases there, and I see how some things changed for better, others for worse, and there’s also things that didn’t change at all.

    We can’t make this the center of our lives, we can’t live for it. We can’t let this determine the amount of love we deserve or receive. We are more than that! Girl, this is an amazing article, congratulations I enjoyed every line, and as I said before, I totally agree with you!

    #ForMorePositiveSocialMediaBreaks!
    I love you,

    senhoritadeise.com

    • TishaKimiira
      July 18, 2017 at 6:48 am

      Haha it’s crazy bc we’ve been through this social media thing together πŸ˜‚it’s definitely changed, in some case for the better and some for worse as you said. I 10000% agree that ‘we can’t let this determine the amount of loge we deserve or receive’. Thank you soooo much for reading!!! Love you πŸ’™πŸ’™πŸ’™

      • July 18, 2017 at 7:09 am

        I love you too ❀ I love reading your blog! ☺❀ It’s always amazing to be here.

        • TishaKimiira
          July 18, 2017 at 9:23 am

          Appreciate the support! 😘😘😘

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