Silent Successes: Stop Sharing Your Goals!

shoot score shout silent successes sharing your goals behind the schmile

At the start of the year, I learnt how to ignore all of the #2017Goals posts I was seeing on social media, but I can turn a blind eye no longer. Guys, it’s April, what are you doing?

Four months into the year you should be working towards your goals, too busy to have the time to broadcast what it is you want to achieve.

I get it, 2016 was a tough year, you want to decree and declare your future victories, but please, speak it into existence for God to hear, not the rest of your timeline- they probably haven’t told you yet so I’ll do it on their behalf: they don’t care.

Unless the people you are informing have the ability to help you, what is the purpose of sharing such information?

I’m an advocate for keeping quiet, #StayPim #PimSqua #PimLife, whichever way you want to dress it up, staying pim should be a lifestyle. If you don’t know what pim means, have a quick read of #StayPim

There are so many reasons why you should keep your goals to yourself (hiding your plans from village witches will not be featured on the list but is a valid reason).

1: You open yourself up to criticism

Criticism can be good, I discussed this in my post Dealing with Discouragement, but it can take a lot of time and energy to re-motivate yourself after receiving negative feedback. So why not cut this stage out completely? People can’t criticise what they don’t know.

“If they don’t know your dreams, then they can’t shoot ’em down”- J Cole, Too Deep for the Intro

2: You feel accomplished

I’ve suffered from this myself so I’m speaking from experience here- about a year ago I made a post about setting goals and I have to admit that I only got close to achieving one of the three goals that I shared in that post. Announcements tend to come with final results, we tend to make them upon completion of a task; when you announce your future plans, you’re almost telling yourself that you’ve done it and that motivation you built up in anticipation starts to die down.

This won’t apply to everyone, in some cases, making an announcement creates the pressure of being accountable, a will to be true to your word and deliver on your promises- if you are this type of person, consider only telling your plans to people who will motivate you to work towards them.

3: Show don’t tell

I don’t know about you, but stories of failure rarely inspire me. If your goal is to inspire people through your achievements, you’re better off telling your story (the good and the bad) when you finally have something to show for it.

4: Not everyone wants you to be successful!

No, not just the village witches (Okay, I lied), there are some spiteful people out there that don’t want to see people being productive: Enemies of Progress is how I like to refer to such.  If you are still living in a fairytale land where Idris Elba is your husband, justice is always served and everyone is kind, please, let this be your wake-up call! You are welcome in advance.

“Real Gs move in silence like lasanga”- Lil Wayne, 6 foot 7 foot

*I know this isn’t what Lil Wayne meant, but this isolated line helps to prove my point, don’t judge my lyric-deciphering abilities on this please πŸ˜›

5: What/Who is your motivation?

Keeping your goals private can help you determine your real motivation. When you share your goals, you are likely to receive some form of encouragement which is absolutely great. But you want to avoid working towards something because of the fuel others provide as opposed to your own. Otherwise, the reality is that you aren’t really doing it for yourself, so what’s the point? Self-motivation is key if you wish to pursue any long-term goals.

Research has been carried out to support these views, you can find Psychological studies online if you need further convincing. In summary: you don’t need to tell people your plans in order to make them happen! In fact, you’re better off not telling them!

Shoot.

Score.

Shout.*

*In that order

shoot score shout silent successes sharing your goals behind the schmile

All the best with your future secret goals, can’t way to see the final results!

Tisha x

#Schmile

S/O to anyone who got that second Cole reference!

  21 comments for “Silent Successes: Stop Sharing Your Goals!

  1. April 30, 2017 at 4:04 pm

    Soooo true with valid points. I also stand for the ‘staypim’ rule, really. You’re accountable for giving the results of the goals achieved and if there were no achievements, then the mockery room has been opened for these so called ‘enemies of progress’
    Thanks. i enjoyed this post, pefect for a sunday!
    Happy Sunday

    • TishaKimiira
      April 30, 2017 at 4:53 pm

      Thank you for reading! Glad you enjoyed itπŸ’™

  2. April 30, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    This was a great read! I loved point 2! I do that a lot myself and I agree that announcing your goals too soon can slow up your motivation and dedication a bit. Definitely keeping this in mind going forward!

    • TishaKimiira
      April 30, 2017 at 9:49 pm

      Glad you could relate! Thank you so much for reading πŸ’™

  3. May 1, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    great post! you made some very good points in the post! I learned that you can’t share your goal and dreams with everyone. Sometimes it is best to keep quite and work on our visions or goal and dreams.

    • TishaKimiira
      May 1, 2017 at 7:00 pm

      Totally agree! Thank you for reading πŸ’™

  4. May 1, 2017 at 8:21 pm

    I agree. I absolutely keep a lot of my goals close to home. Sometimes it’s better to just show the end result of your hard work instead of always talking about it. Great post.

    • TishaKimiira
      May 1, 2017 at 8:28 pm

      Appreciate that! Thank you for reading πŸ’™

  5. May 1, 2017 at 8:31 pm

    I often work in accountability circles. I enjoy sharing hooks with people in action. Announcing publicly usually gets me no where. Except my travel goals… lol to late to hide that 1.

    • TishaKimiira
      May 1, 2017 at 8:39 pm

      Love the concept of accountability circles- great idea!!! Thanks for sharing πŸ’™

  6. May 1, 2017 at 11:53 pm

    #3 and #4 really resonated with me! I feel like sometimes people don’t even really want to hear you unless you can actually show them some type of accomplishment. And I know all too well how #4 works. It’s unfortunate bc sometimes I feel that someone may not even realize that subliminally they don’t want you to do well and they can unconsciously sabotage your efforts to move forwards which can be bad news for me and for the relationship!

    • TishaKimiira
      May 2, 2017 at 6:54 am

      I agree, it’s easy to want to ignore that not everyone has our best interests at heart but it’s the unfortunate reality. Thank you for reading , I’m glad you could relate πŸ’™

  7. May 2, 2017 at 8:37 am

    Totally agree! Great post, great topic! Sometimes is better to succeed in silence!

    • TishaKimiira
      May 2, 2017 at 8:40 am

      Thank you for reading! Glad you liked it πŸ’™

  8. July 22, 2017 at 3:25 pm

    So so true. I stopped sharing a lot of things with people. Even my closest of friends and family. My actions will be seen.

    • TishaKimiira
      July 22, 2017 at 3:26 pm

      Thanks for reading luv!πŸ’™

  9. July 22, 2017 at 5:13 pm

    Humans area race of animals who sometimes don’t want others to be successful, yes this is true. However does not mean you are not allowed to have. Getting distance to this type of social people is important

    • TishaKimiira
      July 22, 2017 at 5:15 pm

      Distance is definitely important! Thank you for reading!πŸ’™

  10. July 24, 2017 at 9:52 am

    I liked ur post very much

    • TishaKimiira
      July 24, 2017 at 1:57 pm

      Thank you very much!😊

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