Friends for Life?
Just like every experience in life, every friendship has its purpose and so when that purpose is fulfilled there is simply no need for the friendship.
Especially after moving off to university, you realise that you aren’t close to some of the people you may have been close with at sixth form or secondary school: this isn’t a bad thing. It’s good to keep in touch once in a while and just check up on each other but you can’t expect the relationship to stay the same. Situations change and relationships change with them.
It seems that a lot of people these days like to ‘cut people off’ just because they feel the friendship may have deteriorated but this usually isn’t the best way to go about things especially when nothing negative has happened between the two people.
Some friends are for life, some just for a season, but no matter the time span, friends are needed and every friend is just as important as the next. But I’m sure you guys already knew all of this. What I really wanted to discuss was making new friendships.
You don’t have to be everyone’s friend, ever, whether or not you’re at uni, but you definitely shouldn’t rush into making a whole load of enemies. I’ve noticed that a lot of people are comparing the new people in their lives to friends they have had since they popped out of the womb and it is beyond unrealistic. You are bound to meet people that are completely different to what you are used to because you are in a new environment , this doesn’t mean they are bad people, they are just different, and with change comes adjustment. So give yourself some time to settle down and get to know the people around you, it may take slightly longer than you think.
Don’t be quick to ‘cut people off’, you never know who you might need in the future; besides, as I keep saying, you are stuck with these people for at least three years, an uncomfortable situation is not preferred. You might not share the same interests as some of the people on your course, but come exam season you’ll need a study buddy so why not get to know a few people? Joining societies is another way to make new friends, or at least acquaintances, especially with older students who might have some advice. I’m not saying by any means you should make friends for the sake of good exam results, but it certainly doesn’t pay to be alone!
I hope you’re well settled into uni now and have made some good friendships, and if you haven’t, make sure you are keeping in touch with someone. With exam season fast approaching a lot of us are feeling the stress and it’s the worst time to feel alone.