The problem isn’t always that we don’t know how to get out of a bad situation, but that we don’t want to accept that we are in a bad situation. We tell ourselves that everything is fine. The truth is everything isn’t and can never be fine, that’s simply not how life works; and yes, it’s great to focus on the positives, but you cannot ignore the things that are eating you up inside. Whatever the problem may be, the first step to dealing with it is acknowledging that it exists.
Recently I have found myself in situations that simply aren’t my fault, all delusion and pride aside, I had either no or very little part to play in the unfortunate series of events, because of this it hadn’t occurred to me that I had a problem that needed fixing because no part of me felt responsible. But I can’t rely on the remorseful actions of others to improve my life and it was obvious to everyone around me that something had changed and not for the better. I know what it is I need to do; I just have to accept that it is broken so that I can fix it.
You may find that you’re falling back into a place that you’ve been in before, possibly numerous times before and you just don’t want to admit that somehow you have allowed yourself to return. As sad as this may be, there has to be a reason why you keep ending up in this situation. It could just be chance, but it’s unlikely. Don’t dwell in denial, we can’t always be where it is we’d like to be doing what it is we’d like to do, life is full of setbacks, stay focused on how to keep moving forward.
Accept it. Check yourself. Fix it.
Easier said than done, trust me I know, I write this hoping to help someone else without having even successfully found a way to help myself. But I was recently reminded that not all of the battles I’m currently fighting are new, there are some that I have had to face over and over again, and I have overcome them over and over again, so there’s no reason why this time should be any different. The real battle is making sure I fight them off for good.
I encourage you to take a look at your life, assess the areas where things are going well, where it is you seem to be growing and progressing and think about why that is. Then take a look at the things that are pretty stagnant, or getting worse off, and be honest with yourself, is it broken?