Okay, but when will you be ready?
The thing about fear is that it presents itself in so many forms that sometimes we fail to recognise it. I’m sure you’ve said these words before, I definitely have. Two years into what you thought was progressing relationship, he tells you he isn’t ready to commit. Five years into your career and you still aren’t ready to put yourself forward for that promotion. Twenty-one years into existence and you still aren’t ready to invest in your one, true passion.
Okay, fine, you aren’t ready yet, but why not? If you know what’s holding you back, then you know what the problem is; if you know what the problem is, you can find a solution; if you can find a solution, then you can make yourself ready, so what are you doing? What’s really holding you back?
Stop listening to fear. You may never be ready for anything, but your body doesn’t consult your feelings before it proceeds to grow, it just does. Sometimes such an approach is necessary for life. If you want to do it, go ahead and do it!
“Never let the fear of striking out stop you from playing the game” – Babe Ruth
Life is all about taking risks.
You will not always succeed, but you completely eliminate your chances when you refuse to try. Successful people don’t sit around waiting for an opportunity to fall into their lap, they consistently work hard, rising up to the challenges of life and along the way opportunity finds them.
I’m at that stage in my life now where I see old schoolmates getting engaged and having babies, and my first thought is always, “If it was me, would I be ready?” and often my answer is no, but ultimately, if it came down to it, I would have to find a way. Now I’m not saying we should all stop what we’re doing right this minute and make babies, but we should learn to adopt this approach to life. Taking opportunities as they came may not pay off every time, but every experience is a form of preparation for that one opportunity that will eventually lead to our success.
Learn to be spontaneous. Try it with small things first and train yourself.
I’m a fan of beauty vloggers, I’ve been watching makeup tutorials on YouTube for as long as I can remember, long before I started wearing makeup myself- not because I wanted to learn how to master the skill but because I just enjoyed watching (I know a few of you will understand this, S/O to Adi). When I eventually started wearing makeup, there were so many techniques I was aware of that I kept telling myself I simply wasn’t ready to try out. Long story short, at the turn of the year, when everyone was screaming out New Year New Me, I decided 2017 would be the year of New Year New Slay and I can indeed confirm that my highlight has not popped the same way since.
For years “I wasn’t ready” to join the gym. I wanted to be settled with the rest of my life and then slowly incorporate it into my routine. For three years I was waiting to settle the rest of my life. My life still isn’t settled. But one day I took the plunge and I’m happy I did. #SummerBodyAlwaysReady
Joining the gym or experimenting with the Morphe 35O palette isn’t exactly a life-changing decision, but it’s a start. Being more spontaneous is a habit that I needed to form. I like structure, I like planning and I like knowing what to expect, so it hasn’t been easy for me. But I’m warming to the idea very slowly… Change isn’t easy, I wrote about Embracing Evolution a while ago and I’m still discovering new pros and cons to my change every day: each a valuable lesson I may not have learnt otherwise.
“Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin. Beginning makes the conditions perfect” – Alan Cohen
To combat fear I’m often forced to ask myself three very simple questions:
- What’s the worst that could happen?
- Will I die?
- Has God ever let me down?
You don’t always need 100% to progress to the next stage; sometimes 99% is more than enough.
Don’t be like the servant who hid his talents rather than investing them (Matthew 25: 14–30), learn to progress by sowing the seeds you already have, in good harvest you are sure to reap much more than you have sown. (Matthew 13: 23)
So, are you ready yet?
All the best,