Differences Matter.

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Differences matter in life. Sometimes we need them to make life better, sometimes they make life awkward or uncomfortable and unfortunately sometimes they make life worse; but ultimately: they matter.

We live in a world that isn’t very accepting or accommodating to people that are different and so it is very easy to assume that simply ignoring differences makes things better. It doesn’t, differences need to be embraced. Unfortunately, other people won’t always embrace our differences, sometimes there isn’t really anything they can do about it; but we need to make sure we are loving and accepting of our own, regardless of how others respond.

You may have heard the phrase ‘Representation Matters’ being used often on social media; it was a phrase that I supported and agreed with before developing any form of emotional connection to these words and their meaning. I grew up in a multicultural city full of people that all looked completely different and such differences were accepted. I grew up with family members in professional roles, pursuing their dreams and developing their careers and it never occurred to me that to some, they were doing the unimaginable. But as I continued to grow and I branched out, creating my own path and truly beginning my own development journey, I ended up in environments where there weren’t so many people that were different let alone people that looked like me.

It was easy for me to agree that representation mattered just for the sake of being a part of a growing movement, without any proper understanding because I had never been in a position where my kind wasn’t represented. It didn’t occur to me how difficult things would become if I was in an environment that didn’t represent me. I believed that as long as my differences weren’t frowned upon or abused then they didn’t matter. The truth is that differences do matter and representation matters even more. When you are in the midst of a culture that isn’t yours, the desire to belong increases and the willingness to simply blend in consumes every single thought and action.

So what do we do about these differences?

Do not conform! Your differences make you special, your discomfort or loneliness is only temporary, regardless of the situation, stick it out and learn more about what makes you different along the way. Be proud of your being, yes, your uniqueness may be slightly more obvious than everyone else’s but this isn’t anything to be ashamed of!

Don’t isolate yourself. If others haven’t isolated you because of your differences, don’t shy away and exclude yourself. Embrace that for a period of time, you may be out of your comfort zone, but try new things, be open to new ideas and make the best out of every situation!

Keep the bigger picture in mind. I believe that there are many in my generation that are in my position, I have so many friends that share similar experiences. I have learnt to take such challenges on as an honour, because I may not be the first of my kind to be where I am doing what I do, but I contribute to one day making sure that it is the norm: I contribute to the representation that we currently lack. 

So, as a person who has inherited these wonderful differences, I want to encourage you to keep pushing through all the feelings of discomfort and cultural struggles- your differences are bigger than you!

Tisha x

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  1. xocrystalnicole
    November 17, 2017 / 1:46 pm

    I agree! Differences are what make us unique and it took me a long time to realize that it was okay for me not to fit in. I wasn’t meant to fit in and that’s a great thing to know!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 17, 2017 / 5:52 pm

      Exactly! We were made to stand out and be unique! Thank you so much for reading x

  2. Michelle
    November 17, 2017 / 1:54 pm

    Think how boring the world would be if we all looked and thought the same. That’s not a world I want to live in.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 17, 2017 / 3:30 pm

      Exactly!

  3. November 17, 2017 / 2:54 pm

    It is so difficult to thrive in environments where you are not represented. It definitely can lead to self-isolation as well as poor self-image. Thank you for addressing this topic.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 17, 2017 / 5:53 pm

      Happy to contribute to a discussion that needs to be had! Thank you for reading! 🙂 x

  4. November 17, 2017 / 3:59 pm

    I always tell my daughter to honor her uniqueness. No one can be you . Differences and diversity are to be celebrated! Great post!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 17, 2017 / 4:37 pm

      Thank you so much! Such encouraging words for your daughter! Thanks for reading x

  5. November 17, 2017 / 4:02 pm

    You’re right differences are what make us unique individuals. The problem starts when groups of people believe they are better than others because of these differences. Thanks for sharing!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 17, 2017 / 5:51 pm

      Glad you agree! Thanks for reading x

  6. Anonymous
    November 17, 2017 / 10:08 pm

    This is so true!! I feel like everyone is doing the same thing and looks the same way not knowing that their unique qualities is what makes them special! Here’s to NOT CONFORMING!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 17, 2017 / 10:36 pm

      Glad you agree!!!! Thank you for reading 💙

  7. ERSCRebeccaM
    November 17, 2017 / 10:35 pm

    Well written.

  8. November 17, 2017 / 11:06 pm

    We all have our unique talents. And yet in many ways we are all the same. So, you’re tip to avoid isolation is a great one to keep in mind.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 17, 2017 / 11:32 pm

      Thank you for reading! 🙂 x

  9. Shell
    November 18, 2017 / 3:57 am

    We are all uniquely and wonderfully made… not conforming is what makes life interesting…

  10. nktsharma28
    November 18, 2017 / 4:09 am

    Everyone has their own thoughts…but if we keep differences aside life will be beautiful

  11. November 18, 2017 / 7:59 am

    you are spot on with entire thought process! As a mom of two very eclectic teens they march to the beat of a different drummer and I’ve raised them to respect others while never confirming who they are.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 18, 2017 / 9:36 am

      As it should be! Thank you so much for reading!💙

  12. November 18, 2017 / 3:48 pm

    I really love your advices, specially the one about “Don’t isolate yourself” I can really picture myself since I’m kinda like a solitaire person. thanks for this wonderful read.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 18, 2017 / 4:07 pm

      So glad you enjoyed this and it was helpful! Thanks for reading x

  13. November 19, 2017 / 1:29 am

    I agree that differences matter. This was the reason I got bullied in school, was because I was different from the other kids – in heritage, appearance, and knowledge. But it is differences, that make us better.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 19, 2017 / 1:47 am

      So sad to hear that this happened to you! But happy to hear that you didn’t let it defeat you! Thanks for reading 💙

  14. November 19, 2017 / 9:52 pm

    Life would certainly be boring if we were all the same! Embrace the difference!

  15. November 20, 2017 / 2:12 am

    Differences make us great. I love that for sure.

  16. November 20, 2017 / 5:09 am

    Great article! Representation truly does matter and we all must do our part when the opportunity arises. All are great tips, but the first one really resonated with me. #FabulousTips

    • TishaKimiira
      November 20, 2017 / 8:53 am

      Thank you so much!💙

  17. November 20, 2017 / 8:23 am

    I am with you on not conforming. Conforming is like surpression stand out and be you!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 20, 2017 / 8:54 am

      Thank you!😊

  18. November 20, 2017 / 9:00 am

    What wonderful advice! With three totally different kids it is amazing to watch them embrace being different from each other and the rest of the world!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 20, 2017 / 9:11 am

      Seeinf people embrace differences, especially considering the way the world is today, is truly beautiful! Thank you for reading!💙

  19. November 20, 2017 / 10:34 am

    This is great and so well-said! Differences should definitely be embraced, they are what makes us interesting and special!

  20. November 20, 2017 / 12:46 pm

    People have to be thick skinned to understand and accept the difference in others. There are so many influences that seem to shun variety and promote group think and behavior. I agree with you diversity is beautiful.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 20, 2017 / 5:29 pm

      Thank you so much for reading!💙

  21. November 20, 2017 / 1:38 pm

    Agreed!! It’s so hard for me at times to NOT isolate myself. The older I get the better it feels. This post was needed!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 20, 2017 / 5:30 pm

      So glad it was helpful!!!💙

  22. November 20, 2017 / 2:49 pm

    Well tips shared ! Difference matter and everyone of this is earth is different so be confident and face the world

  23. November 21, 2017 / 11:26 pm

    Excellent article, I agree people need to learn to embrace their uniqueness and the differences in others, it’s what makes the world so interesting.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 22, 2017 / 12:00 am

      Thank you so much for reading! 🙂 x

    • TishaKimiira
      November 22, 2017 / 12:04 am

      Thank you for reading- glad you agree!!!

  24. Chris
    November 25, 2017 / 4:11 pm

    Differences is what makes the world an interesting place!! Great post!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 25, 2017 / 5:21 pm

      Thank you! 🙂

  25. staciesayzso
    November 26, 2017 / 10:35 pm

    Celebrating ones difference is always the best way to go. I love when people are their authentic selves.

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