Authority over Anger

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Anger:

1: a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong; wrath; ire

Source: Dictionary.com

Emotions are a crazy thing and often we struggle to control them; mostly because we feel it isn’t possible. But I recently learnt that this isn’t the case.

I was full of anger on one random evening and I called a friend to discuss things. Soon, anger that had stemmed from work quickly spread to other friends and family. So within about 20 minutes, I had gone from being angry at a colleague to being angry at the world. But I hate being angry- mainly for selfish reasons because anger leads to stress and stress leads to spots- and so after a short ranting session I decided I needed to fix things. Out of the 24 hours in my day, I had already lost an hour to anger, I didn’t want to lose anymore.

The friend I was talking to at the time gave me the best advice I could ask for, she told me to listen to some worship music. I got my favourite playlist on and I started thinking about what God thinks about anger and emotions as a whole. The first scripture that came to mind was Ephesians 4:26:

“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath” (KJV)

Let’s break it down into two parts.

Part 1:

“Be ye angry, and sin not”

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I used this version because it’s important to understand that God has no issue with you being angry. Learning to control your emotions or having authority over your anger doesn’t mean pretending that it doesn’t exist. You can’t have authority over what isn’t there. Many people confuse the control of feelings for the elimination of them altogether. We are human, we were made to feel and so feeling angry isn’t something you should feel bad about.

Be is the word I need you to take note of here. It’s a verb. It’s also somewhat imperative. If you don’t take anything else from this, please pay close attention to what I’m about to say. God is not against you expressing emotions! Ecclesiastes 3:4 tells us that there is “a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;”

The problem arises when you give your anger more power than it deserves and you allow it to steer you off the path of righteousness. If in your anger you start bitching, using harsh language and showing anything but love, you’ve fallen into sin. THIS is what we are to avoid!

Part 2:

“let not the sun go down upon your wrath”
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We’ve already established that anger is allowed, but it has to be controlled. Until I had dissected this particular scripture, I didn’t think it was possible- but why shouldn’t it be? I’m a strong believer that happiness is a choice and happiness is an emotion just like any other which would mean that anger is also a choice. There is nothing in this world that God hasn’t given us authority over and anger is included in that.

When I was much younger, I interpreted this half of the scripture literally and sometimes I would go to bed in tears because I was scared that God could see that I was wrapped up in my duvet still harbouring anger. Oh, how innocent I once was. Although I see nothing wrong with this literal translation, I also believe that this means not to hold grudges. God doesn’t tell us to do the impossible and He is willing to help us through all things. Therefore, having control over your emotions, or in this particular case, authority over your anger, isn’t a far fetched goal. It is very much doable.

Authority over Anger

It’s much easier said than done to pull in the reigns when anger is brewing. The things that frustrated me as a 7-year-old are much more insignificant than those that affect me 14 years later, but the anger I feel is still the same. Which is a reminder to me that another 14 years down the line, I’ll look back at this and wonder why I paid so much attention to it. But in the meantime, I’m still angry. So what now?

My answer is a combination of things I have discussed in the past: Magnify the Lord!, find your Release and Choose to Smile ๐Ÿ™‚. Don’t focus on what won’t bring you peace, forgive as much and as quickly as you can and strive to make yourself happy. The person you feel has wronged you will sleep well tonight, you deserve to sleep even better!

Finally, in the words of the dear friend that helped me snap out of my ranting session, “don’t let em dull your shine baby girl”

How willing are you to take authority over your anger???

Stay in control,

Tisha x

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  1. November 12, 2017 / 12:39 pm

    Beautiful article. I’m learning to allow myself to feel my emotions. Like you said, the scripture doesn’t say not to be angry. I have a question. What do you mean when you say anger leads to spots?

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 12:40 pm

      Thank you so much for reading!๐Ÿ’™Haha when I get angry I often get stressed and then I get stress spots๐Ÿ˜‚

  2. November 12, 2017 / 1:13 pm

    I agree, it’s only when we let our anger consume us and we react is when it gets bad. In the mean time we could be doing something else with all that energy. Nice post xox

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 1:47 pm

      Thank you for reading๐Ÿ’™

  3. mrsanniekearns
    November 12, 2017 / 1:26 pm

    My husband and I were talking about this the other day! I get angry, he hardly ever does. He started to think being angry was a sin, but after falling in love with and living with me, he is starting to realize emotions are not the sin, the actions in the emotions are. Great post!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 1:48 pm

      So glad you can relate! Thank you so much for reading๐Ÿ’™

  4. November 12, 2017 / 2:03 pm

    Love this! Especially the part about not acting as if these emotions exist. We have to acknowledge it to move past it and God is completely ok with that. Thanks for sharing!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 2:09 pm

      Glad you enjoyed- thank you for reading! ๐Ÿ™‚ x

  5. November 12, 2017 / 2:26 pm

    Wonderful words of advice, Tisha! I was recently dealing with being angry and found much of what you said hits home. Thank you for sharing this with us.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 3:09 pm

      Pleased to hear this! Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜Š

  6. November 12, 2017 / 3:06 pm

    I loved this post! I used to let my anger get the best of me and these days I usually repeat “be still and know” I do a few deep breaths and try to find a way to eliminate the degree of my anger and just work through it. It is just too much energy that goes into being angry

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 3:10 pm

      Psalm 46:10 is my favourite of all time! So much power in โ€œBe stillโ€!!!!! Thank you for reading luvie๐Ÿ’™

  7. November 12, 2017 / 5:47 pm

    Its a beautiful article, life is too short to be angry so long. If someone wronged us we should forgive them not only for them but first for the peace of our selves.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 5:52 pm

      Way too short, every moment is precious! Thank you for reading๐Ÿ’™

  8. November 12, 2017 / 8:25 pm

    This post couldn’t have come at better time for me! I’m fighting anger myself for the past two days actually, arriving in waves whenever I remember the person who wronged me… and then I get angry at myself for missing that person and then I start to be angry for saying things I’ve said despite being in the right… Oh my!! What a chain, huh?! But you’re right – that person’s gonna sleep well tonight and I deserve that too… so… deep breath and…. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 8:49 pm

      Weโ€™ve all been there!๐Ÿ˜ฉYes! You deserve to sleep well too! Thanks for reading ๐Ÿ’™

  9. November 12, 2017 / 8:41 pm

    Great Post. I have struggled with Anger and that scripture has definitely showed me it was alright, however I too had to learn how to use my feelings in a positive light. I didn’t want them to rule over me, but for me to rule over them. Thank you for this post. Great.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 8:50 pm

      So glad you enjoyed reading it! Thank you for your support!๐Ÿ’™

  10. November 12, 2017 / 11:21 pm

    Lovely article. Itโ€™s methodical with faith intertwined. Thank you for the insight!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 12, 2017 / 11:40 pm

      So glad you enjoyed it! I really appreciate your feedback ๐Ÿ’™

  11. November 13, 2017 / 7:46 am

    Wow! This is real deep but practical

  12. November 13, 2017 / 8:08 am

    My mum always taught me never to go to bed angry, and i teach that to my child now.
    We all get angry and rightly so, sometimes, but it is how we handle it that counts, I am glad that you have faith in which to deal with it, I have the Angels too!
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    • TishaKimiira
      November 13, 2017 / 9:12 am

      Love this! Thank you so much for reading and sharing!๐Ÿ’™

    • November 13, 2017 / 4:17 pm

      I try to live by the “never go to bed angry” policy. I think that it is important on many different levels.

      • TishaKimiira
        November 13, 2017 / 4:44 pm

        Extremely important!

  13. juelzjohn
    November 13, 2017 / 12:10 pm

    such a great post.Sometimes it’s easier said than done.
    eph 4:26 such an awesome verse i always try my best.I listen to music to calm myself down everytime an so angry

    • TishaKimiira
      November 13, 2017 / 4:42 pm

      Listening to music is a great tip- thanks for sharing!๐Ÿ’™

  14. Belinda
    November 13, 2017 / 4:31 pm

    What a great post. It is all about how you deal with it that matters.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 13, 2017 / 4:43 pm

      Thanks for reading!๐Ÿ’™

  15. November 13, 2017 / 8:26 pm

    I take authority of my anger every day, I have a bad temper and there are times its hard for me to control it. But I do a little breathing exercise it helps me out.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 13, 2017 / 8:33 pm

      Thank you for reading and haring your tips!

  16. shannon
    November 13, 2017 / 8:34 pm

    An insightful post. I have always found music helpful for anger and sadness.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 13, 2017 / 8:58 pm

      Thank you for stopping by!๐Ÿ’™

  17. November 14, 2017 / 2:00 am

    wow! such an in depth post. really deep and meaningful

  18. November 14, 2017 / 2:25 am

    We live by the idea of not waking up angry..whatever be the issues, sort it out before going to bed!
    That helps a lot!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 8:12 am

      Thank you!๐Ÿ˜Š

  19. Diana Tidswell
    November 14, 2017 / 8:40 am

    This is such a wonderful post! Very deep and meaningful! Must share this!

  20. Julie Syl
    November 14, 2017 / 1:54 pm

    This is so meaningful post. It is true that we do not sleep angry because when we wake up we still angry to the people we really hate. That’s why if we have a problem we talked about it so it did not get worse.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 2:03 pm

      I agree! Thank you for the reading!๐Ÿ’™

  21. November 14, 2017 / 2:38 pm

    I loved this so encouraging… Iโ€™ll definitely taking this with me everywhere I have a bad temper and can often let things get me soo angry but life is too short I actually really really loved this keep up the good work beautiful x

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 2:41 pm

      Thank you so much! I hope itโ€™s helpful ๐Ÿ’™

  22. Kris B
    November 14, 2017 / 2:52 pm

    Great advice! I try not to stay angry for long but sometimes its hard when hurt is involved. Thank you for the post. Gave me things to think about when my anger becomes to big.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 5:36 pm

      So happy to hear that it was helpful! Thank you so much for reading ๐Ÿ’™

  23. November 14, 2017 / 4:36 pm

    Always choosing the smile! ๐Ÿ™‚ Even if its with a grin. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 5:36 pm

      Thatโ€™s the best kind there is!๐Ÿ˜Š

  24. November 14, 2017 / 5:40 pm

    I find this one tough. Sometimes it’s just not possible to go to bed not angry. I do my best to deal with the feeling but if it isn’t totally gone I don’t worry about it… I’m sure God will understand!

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 5:47 pm

      I agree! Weโ€™re all human and God definitely understands- not everything is under our control. But we should still try our best!๐Ÿ˜Š

  25. November 14, 2017 / 5:49 pm

    This is such a thought provoking post. We truly have to take authority over our emotion, anger and otherwise. We run the emotion, not the other way around.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 6:15 pm

      Thank you for reading!๐Ÿ’™

  26. November 14, 2017 / 7:37 pm

    I get the points you are trying to highlight here but through the years I learnt to just let go. sometimes it is much better to simply not waste time on controlling the anger and simply not get angry in the first place. It doesnt work all the time so your advice is on point for those times ๐Ÿ™‚

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 7:53 pm

      I appreciate your perspective! Not getting angry at all is much easier said than done ๐Ÿ˜‚Thank you for reading!๐Ÿ˜Š

  27. November 14, 2017 / 9:06 pm

    This is great advice. I appreciate you reminding us to let go of anger and not feel too bad for being that way as well.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 9:39 pm

      Thank you so much for having a read!๐Ÿ˜Š

  28. hleguilloux
    November 14, 2017 / 9:12 pm

    Anger is often the expressed emotion with many underlying emotions that are not as easily seen, such a pain or hurt. It can be important to identify and resolve these primary emotions while also controlling the anger symptoms.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 14, 2017 / 9:39 pm

      A very valid point! Understanding our emotions is key to dealing with them! Thank you for reading!๐Ÿ’™

  29. November 15, 2017 / 12:30 am

    I always enjoy reading your encouraging post. You give some very good advice.
    Anger can be all consuming. It is so important to not let it.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 15, 2017 / 12:53 am

      Thank you so much- I really appreciate this!!! Glad you enjoyed it! x

  30. thiscurvylife
    November 15, 2017 / 1:22 am

    It is SOOOO hard not to get angry. I think you did a good thing by trying to channel it into a positive with those principles. I keep working on my anger as its not healthy for anyone really.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 15, 2017 / 1:25 am

      Thank you so much for reading- glad you can relate to the struggle!

  31. November 15, 2017 / 6:33 am

    Oh my goodness yes! I can not tell you how much I needed to read this. I just recently went through a tough time with one of my relatives and I realized that it is so not worth all the anger that just boils inside, but its okay to feel it, just not to react in an outrageous way that one can regret later on.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 15, 2017 / 9:00 am

      So glad if was a timely post! Thank you so much for reading! Wishing you the best!๐Ÿ’™

  32. November 15, 2017 / 5:28 pm

    A lot of Christians act like anger is this horrible emotion, but I think it can be useful. And, God was angry in the bible multiple times. It can often motivate us to make much needed changes in our lives.

    • TishaKimiira
      November 15, 2017 / 6:48 pm

      Completely agree!!!! Sometimes we need these โ€˜negativeโ€™ feelings to produce something positive! Thank for reading ๐Ÿ’™

  33. November 16, 2017 / 12:29 pm

    I just got some upsetting news right before I read this and boy was I mad. I think this article was meant for me to read just at the right time. Although the anger wasn’t geared towards anyone, just the news I received. I really love this quote “The person you feel has wronged you will sleep well tonight, you deserve to sleep even better”

    • TishaKimiira
      November 16, 2017 / 2:04 pm

      Iโ€™m so glad to hear this- perfect timing!!!!! Thank you so much for reading- I hope it was helpful!๐Ÿ˜Š

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